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#1
Mar 06, 2011, 11:50 PM
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My one question that I don't understand is
Why does hurt inflicted by others on me hurt 10x more Than hurt thats is self-inflicted I can't make any sense of how I can cut into my skin day after day and feel no pain But when someone says something hurtful I break down and only take it out on myself and I physically hurt Why do I and so many others think and feel this way???? 
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#2
Mar 07, 2011, 12:04 AM
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 While i don't cut or SI, i do bash myself. I am vicious in my hate of me. Yet will also break down if someone else is mean to me - because their meaness to me hurts more than my meaness to me. Maybe, even though both pains are similar, our bodies register them differently? Maybe when others hurt us, its more painful because it reinforces our self-hatred - like two blows in one? 
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#3
Mar 07, 2011, 01:56 AM
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Totally agreeing with notablackbarbie here. . . .
The pain we get when we are hurt is the reason that makes us cut. . .so the pain out of cutting is self satisfactory reasons. . . . Try to divert ur mind when u feel like cutting. . . . do something creative or talk to ur friends. . . . or rather start hitting the punching bag. . . . |
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#4
Mar 07, 2011, 04:11 AM
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Emotional pain is so severe, intense, and intolerable for you (like myself) that inflicting physical pain to mask the emotional pain is the solution. It becomes an addiction and we tend to dissociate as well when it happens so the actual physical pain of it is much less noticeable. I hope that this helps!
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#5
Mar 07, 2011, 04:51 AM
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 I think there is a sense of power in feeling like hurting ourselves somehow makes up for the pain we feel from others. The physical pain is much easier to cope with than the emotional pain IMO.
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 Children's talent to endure stems from their ignorance of alternatives. ~ Maya Angelou Thank you SadNEmpty for my avatar and signature.
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Mar 07, 2011, 10:42 AM
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Does it have anything to do with control? You control your own physical pain in these situations? You know yourself and all your motives and all of your feelings about yourself. When someone else hurts you, your mind takes off on all the motives and feelings behind it plus this adds to your own beliefs about yourself. I also agree with CSC, that the emotional pain is worse.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Mar 07, 2011, 10:53 AM
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 oww and then youre left with a deepening hole which is many times worse cumulatively than what you do or others do...
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Mar 08, 2011, 02:11 AM
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I SH mostly to punish myself and because I don't deserve to have clean skin(scar free) and other times its to numb emotional pain or to feel pain when the emotional pain has become so overwhleming I don't feel much of any emotional pain so I SH to feel
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Mar 08, 2011, 03:34 AM
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Underneath the numbness are feelings trying to get out. Numbing is a great coping tool in the moment, but very temporary, very much like SI - the relief is only temporary and then you feel the need to do it again....
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Children's talent to endure stems from their ignorance of alternatives. ~ Maya Angelou Thank you SadNEmpty for my avatar and signature.
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Mar 08, 2011, 01:39 PM
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 Are you talking to your therapist about all of this?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Mar 09, 2011, 01:05 AM
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Im to ashamed to admit it to her but I guess I might because I think its the new medication Im on
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Mar 09, 2011, 03:21 PM
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I really hope that you discuss all of this with your therapist. Keep us posted?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#13
Mar 12, 2011, 08:07 PM
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Well the depression went away for like 2 days and now its back, i just can never get a break. SI urges are tidal waves....its pre bad atm
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#14
Mar 12, 2011, 08:26 PM
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Please don't cut yourself. I know from personal experience that pain inflicted by others is 10xs worse than pain you can inflict on yourself. I think that part of the pain we inflict on ourselves is to try and protect us from outside hurts. I don't know that we can stop others from hurting us but we can choose how much we allow it to hurt.
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#15
Mar 12, 2011, 10:48 PM
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 I agree! To add that, other people's words can hurt so much more than any physical pain...even self inflicted.
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