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Jul 23, 2011, 10:18 AM
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T told me that she isn't against SI all the time.
I've been seeing her to try to STOP doing this though... Does anyone have any experience with this? Or is everyone's Ts very very annoyed withthis habit?
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Jul 23, 2011, 10:42 AM
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Well in my experence my old t told me she doesn't get extremely upset with it because she knows that are coping skill and that it takes time to change it but after she has spent time on enough and has given the client the tools. Then she gets alittle upset. My old T was more of I can't get mad or disappointed with the clients unless I have given them the tools and have worked with them to get threw those feelings. Hope this helps just alittle. Take care!!
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Jul 23, 2011, 11:03 AM
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Hmmn, thank you
 Even with equipping me with coping mechanisms, she said she doesn't mind if I use this method too. I guess she wants me to stop in my own time...
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Jul 23, 2011, 11:31 AM
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My current T...isn't for SI, exactly, but she certainly isn't against it. She says that it's a coping mechanism, like anything else, and that it's understandable.
Do you know if your T has dealt with many SI clients? Maybe talk to her about why the habit annoys her.
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Jul 23, 2011, 02:21 PM
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My T thinks along the same line as Indie's T. She also says that SI is an addiction so ofcourse it is going to be hard to give up and the cravings will still be there. It's the same as drugs and smoking.
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Jul 23, 2011, 02:47 PM
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My T says it's a tool people use to cope with pain and anger and to try and control our feelings. She says there are better tools and it's important to try and learn more effective coping mechanisms, but she never made me feel like a failure or anything when I cut. I haven't done it in almost 3 weeks now and I'm hoping I won't need to anymore, I'm actually learning some things that work BETTER and last longer than hurting myself, so I definitely have a lot more respect for her as a T. It was becoming like an addiction for me and the problem with that is you always want more and more and you keep kind of chasing the release.
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Jul 23, 2011, 09:37 PM
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I think she is probably thinking that as you begin healing through your therapy work, the desire to SI will lessen and lessen. I am sure she does not think it is a good think by any means, but just something that will take time to work through.
My T will tell me that she wants me to be safe, and that she wishes I wouldn't hurt myself to deal with things, and she gives me some constructive ways to deal with it, but she isn't ever really against it or annoyed by it. She is very understanding. |
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Jul 23, 2011, 09:38 PM
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Oh and wanted to add that if you are ready to stop and you really want to work on it, and T still doesn't push you like you want, then thats not good and you should talk to her about it.
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Jul 24, 2011, 04:09 AM
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Jul 24, 2011, 11:35 AM
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I think she's given me the tools to stop, but as she likes to stress in our sessions, she's 'leaving it up to me'.
I was just somewhat surprised at her, "I don't think cutting is bad, all the time. If that's what you use to cope, fine." We don't stress too much about it usually. She's never seen my cuts or scars. Sometimes I wonder if she even believes me.
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Jul 24, 2011, 03:02 PM
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T's pretty much have to go "with the flow"
 If she were anti, you'd get in a "will struggle" and not make any progress. It's all always completely up to you, what your behavior is and what you decide to work on as far as symptoms. The symptom that brought me into 18 years of therapy with my T we never/rarely discussed! But, it got "cured" with the actual problems we did work on. Cutting isn't your mental health problem, whatever is triggering it is and that's probably what she wants to work on with you. It's interesting to me that you wonder if she believes you or not, as if that's "important" to you (that she believe what you say and you don't accept that you will be believed as a given); I think you should discuss that with her.
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Jul 24, 2011, 08:10 PM
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lol Perna. You've stumbled across a problem with my self esteem- I've been dismissed my entire life.
So I automatically assume no one wuold believe me.
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Jul 25, 2011, 10:15 PM
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