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Apr 16, 2006, 11:01 PM
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I have a teenage alter who wants to hurt us. She's mad because I looked at some self help material that I wasn't ready to look at and T said not to after I did it. Now everyone is upset with me and upset in general and the teenager is accusing me of causing trouble and causing trouble from the start by going to therapy, that everything was okay before.
How do I stop the teen from wanting to hurt us? Songbird
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Apr 16, 2006, 11:20 PM
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Songbird, I wish I had some advice. I have an alter which others fight with and to be honest with you I am still trying to figure out how to control it but I havent yet. Just want you too know I saw your thread and sending out hugssssssss. Please be safe.
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Apr 16, 2006, 11:22 PM
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I can only imagine the pain and fear the teenager is feeling right now. It sounds like she is lacking the coping skills for that much emotion. I hope between you and your t you can help her feel safer.
It is probably a good idea to take it a bit slower for everyone for a while. I am sure your t can help you with timing and pace. Please take care of everyone. Gentle hugs. Try and be safe. Extra special hugs to the teenager if it's ok.
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Apr 17, 2006, 07:04 AM
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 Cher I wish we all had answers so no one had to hurt anymore. Songbird
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Apr 17, 2006, 07:09 AM
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 BipolarBear I think you're right. Slowing down and waiting for T to guide is a better idea. I just get impatient with myself and want to get better. I guess I can't get better if I don't do it the right way. I will try. (sigh) Thank you for sending teen extra hugs. I get the impression that she's not sure what to do with them but is a thoughtful person and friendship takes time. She doesn't trust very well. T is just beginning to talk to her - through e-mail. She likes it that way. Much safer than the office. It's okay with T. Oh no!~ I'm babbling. I, too, hope she feels safer and less like hurting us and herself. I have to try and figure it out. Hugs, Songbird
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Apr 17, 2006, 05:28 PM
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Since the trigger is reading self help information taking that out of the situation will stop that memory piece from replaying.
I have a violent memory piece named Margo and my therapist was able to deactivate the part of that memory piece that contained the information on throwing things. I don't know how she (therapist) did it. I am not co conscious when it comes to the "Margo" memorys so I can't tell you how she did it but I do know that it involved my therapist triggering me more than once into acting out the "margo" memories. Talk with your therapist and he can help you. (((((((((((Songbird))))))))))))) |
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Apr 17, 2006, 09:13 PM
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((((((((((((((((myself)))))))))))))))))
Sigh, thanks for the info. Not up to interacting. Thanks. Maybe I'll just go bury myself in a hole somewhere.
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Apr 21, 2006, 09:30 PM
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   snowbird - phooey <font color="red"> we are no good. we stink. we are bad. no one can make that go away. poo poo </font>
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Apr 21, 2006, 10:11 PM
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(((((snowbird and the rest))))
you are SO good. I th ink so anyways 
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