My problem

Should i feel guilty? Ever since the people in my life have found out that i've been cutting, they keep asking me to stop. That's the part that i understand. But, when they go on to explain, its all 'you don't know how much you're hurting us' and 'why would you do that to us'. To me, that sounds selfish. For as long as i can remember i've been struggling with depression and eating disorders and i found something that helps me and they want me to stop because it hurts them. What about me? Or maybe that's selfish. I honestly don't know anymore. I know i should stop, and i will if i can find something that works as good as this does. Or maybe i'm just being a typical rebellious teenager; doing something because every tells me that i can't. Should i feel guilty?

No, you should absolutely NOT feel guilty.
They are just making excuses and trying to make you feel like s**t. Definitely not real friends.

Real friends would try and support you and aim to help you recover (along with the help of a professional, since they're only a shoulder to cry on and can only do so much).

I would suggest talking to them about it and telling them that it's not as easy as just stopping, it's an addiction just like smoking, you smoke when you're stressed/bored/emotional/etc. and the same with alcoholics, so why should they treat you different because you're harming yourself in a DIFFERENT way.

You're harming yourself LESS physically, than if you were binge drinking every night or smoking. Yeah, you might do these things, but this isn't my point here. My point is that I bet they wouldn't bat an eyelid if you were an alcoholic or a smoker.

If they drink or smoke, maybe you should turn the gunpoint on them and say they're hurting you when they drink or smoke.

If they can't understand that, then they're definitely not your friends.

Line,
I agree that these people came across as selfish. I'm not surprised they reacted the way they did. It seems like a typical reaction from a person who isn't accustomed to that kind of behavior or who has never experienced it themselves.

Please don't feel guilty In my opinion, it's probably more productive for them to inquire how they can help better support you rather than make you feel like you're doing something to hurt them. If these individuals are unable to support you in a way that you would like them to, maybe consider seeking help elsewhere? But I strongly encourage you to continue using your voice; don't let their reaction scare you away from sharing your struggles with self-harm.

-Allein

Thank you, i'll def make sure to talk to them about it. Maybe if i explained they would understand it more. You made excellent points and i value your feedback <3

You shouldn't feel guilty, the only person you are really answerable to is yourself.

Now with that said there are plenty of reasons why you shouldn't cut that are all about YOU. But deep down cutting is a coping mechanism (yes an unhealthy one) but nobody should judge you unless they have "walked in your shoes" (obviously nobody has).