[tomboy2011]

what do u do if someone sees your cuts and how do u stay strong and not cut more when someone dos my T askked me about the cuts and i kinda broke down and wanted to cut more and the same thing happened wiht my mom but i didnt cry just SI

[Sannah]

Can you discuss this question with your T?

[tomboy2011]

no i usely shut down when cutting comes up and it makes me want to cut more

[Sannah]

hmmmm, not a good circular thing going on there. What else makes you shut down?

[tomboy2011]

talking about cutting people juge u everywhere

[nicoleb2]

Unfortunately, for the rest of your life, people will judge you, for cutting, and for many other things. That is part of being human. People judge. Some people judge based on skin color, others on age. Judging is going to happen, so you need to tell yourself that of anyone, your t can handle it and help you.
Until you are WILLING to accept help, and to talk to someone in real life about this, it can't change.

[Sannah]

And what is the worst thing that will happen if someone judges you?

[tomboy2011]

they give u that piddy look and think u cant do anything or u should just deal with it

[Girl_Interrupted]

Then why don't you just hide your arms away like the rest of us!

You're going to have to get used to the people judging you if you wish to show your wounds and scars in public.

Please stop complaining about people judging your self-harm. They judge you because it's not healthy, you are a young girl who is damaging her body with self harm, just like I did.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by tomboy2011

they give u that piddy look and think u cant do anything or u should just deal with it

This is lethal for you? It would be good to learn that you are strong enough to withstand what others believe. You can't control what others do and you can't wither away when you face others.

[nicoleb2]

Better to potentially deal with that look from your t now, actively seeking help than to wait till you go too far and end up inpatient and get that look from all the doctors and nurses.

[Girl_Interrupted]

Apparently my post was "triggering" to tomboy.

I'm sorry, but if she doesn't want to hear the truth, that's her problem. There was NOTHING wrong with my post at all.

You really need to discuss your SI with your therapist, no matter how unpleasant it is. Once you discover why and learn alternate ways to cope your outlook on life will improve. Putting this off will only hurt you, because your SI is perpetuating the negative feelings you have about yourself.

SI is not healthy nor cool. It separates you from your peers, because most people do not understand it. Some don’t want to. It usually scares people away. Showing your scars to others will isolate you even more.

People want to help. Sometimes that involves being blunt. Directness does not necessarily mean a personal attack. It is not meant to trigger you but to provoke thought about your actions. You choose to react the way you do. No one makes you behave that way. It is not right to blame your behaviour on others.

There are a lot of good points in this thread that you can learn from. Use the "criticism" in a constructive way. You can change but you have to work at it. There is hope.

Unfortunately, judging is a part of life.

[foreverg]

Originally Posted by Girl_Interrupted

Then why don't you just hide your arms away like the rest of us!

You're going to have to get used to the people judging you if you wish to show your wounds and scars in public.

Please stop complaining about people judging your self-harm. They judge you because it's not healthy, you are a young girl who is damaging her body with self harm, just like I did.

rude much