[mrmag]

every day im wishing i can stop cutting but its too tempting and when i break in i tend to cut up my arm allot its coted with cuts and i want thum to go away but i gist cant stop. what is wrong with me?

[grey_aj]

Everyone copes with situations differently, and SI is one of those unhealthy coping methods. You need to find different and better ways to deal with your frustration/ anger/ sadness/ (insert your emotion here), which is definitely easier said than done. There isn't anything wrong with *you* per se, but rather how you are dealing with whatever you are going through.

-AJ

[Sannah]

Do you have a therapist?

[RatherDream]

If your truly feel the need to self-harm, there are other options that you can do to feel pain but not hurt yourself. One that I know is that instead of cutting your wrist or arm, take an ice cube and hold it against your flesh until you feel the need to pull away. Or you could put it in your mouth and hold it against your cheek until you have to spit it out. It makes you feel pain as cutting would, but without injury. If you wish to see blood, you can even dye the ice cubes red with food coloring so that when they melt they drip red.

I rather hear that you slowly pulled away from self harming and that you found other alternatives to pain with you are upset. I understand it must be difficult and I hope that your problems can be sorted out through possible therapy or self coaxing. Maybe during times when you feel the need to cut you can distract yourself with something you enjoy such as writing or drawing. If you feel you have no outlet, maybe you could engaging in said activities just to get your mind off things and to focus on something other than the cutting.

I really hope things turn around for you in the future and don't think you're in the wrong. Like said above, we all have different ways to cope with our emotions or situations, but some need a better alternative than others.

[mrmag]

Originally Posted by Sannah

Do you have a therapist?

no i dont have a therapist

[mrmag]

Originally Posted by RatherDream

If your truly feel the need to self-harm, there are other options that you can do to feel pain but not hurt yourself. One that I know is that instead of cutting your wrist or arm, take an ice cube and hold it against your flesh until you feel the need to pull away. Or you could put it in your mouth and hold it against your cheek until you have to spit it out. It makes you feel pain as cutting would, but without injury. If you wish to see blood, you can even dye the ice cubes red with food coloring so that when they melt they drip red.

I rather hear that you slowly pulled away from self harming and that you found other alternatives to pain with you are upset. I understand it must be difficult and I hope that your problems can be sorted out through possible therapy or self coaxing. Maybe during times when you feel the need to cut you can distract yourself with something you enjoy such as writing or drawing. If you feel you have no outlet, maybe you could engaging in said activities just to get your mind off things and to focus on something other than the cutting.

I really hope things turn around for you in the future and don't think you're in the wrong. Like said above, we all have different ways to cope with our emotions or situations, but some need a better alternative than others.

well i have tried the ice cube befor and the problum is i dont get cold easally so i go throu 3 or 4 ice cubes befor i need to throw it down or spit it out i have tried the elastick band but thay dont work... for me i need both pain and blood and lots of pain it takes afew cuts for the pain to go away but ill try to do other things to get my mind off cutting and what happins at school or during the day. i am hoping ill get a punching bag at christmis so that could work.

[Sannah]

Any chance of getting a T?

[mrmag]

Originally Posted by Sannah

Any chance of getting a T?

well the problum is if i get one my family will find out and i cant risk that so no

[Sannah]

Why can't your family find out?

[mrmag]

honistly i dont know how thay will reacket everyone elce ive tont rejeckted me and through me out to the curb to be riped peace by peace by the torment by others... ive only met 1 person who dosen juge me

[Sannah]

Then you are operating on assumptions about how your family will react. You might be keeping yourself away from help over things that aren't even true.