showing T scars/cuts...

Does your T ever ask to see the cuts? If T has, what have you said? Did you show T? If you didn't was T mad?

I'm comfortable enough to not have a problem wit showing some of them. It just shows I've worked past it , and the scars make me who I am today. I may not like them, but it's the inevitable .

Ive had 4 T's. Only one asked to see. I really trusted her so I said yes. But once whe a school official asked to see I refused. My T said she was surprised because she didnt know I was still cutting but she wasnt mad. But at the end of the day it is really up to you. You can always say that you are not comfortable discussing or showing or doing _______ and your counselor will listen

my therapist asked once. I think she will ask again soon. I did show her the first time and I plan to show her if she asks. I feel that it shows that I trust her. I really feel that if I said no she would respect that. if you trust your therapist then I would show them. I think they ask to take away the shame of it being a secret.

My t doesn't ask very often to actually see. Just asks how bad I cut, and I can't lie because she knows me, really well

There may be a couple reasons they want to see them. It may be medical. If you are cutting really deep or a lot it could pose a health risk. It may also be she wants you to be more comfortable and be able to talk about it. To help you see more clearly what you are doing.

My therapist never wanted to see mine. She knew I self injured, but I always did it on a concealed part of my body. I think she was okay with just talking about it. I don't think she can force you to show her, unless she thinks you are a danger to yourself.

My T asked me once if she could see because she wanted to assess how deeply I was cutting. I wanted to comply, but the second I attempted to roll up my sleeve, I was immediately sent into anxiety attack mode. Since then, she hasn't asked me again, but I wouldn't be surprised if it came up again in a future session.

My T never asked to see, but I asked if I could show her. I needed to be able to show someone my scars without having them freak out. I told T that I needed to be able to just show her without having her react. So, I did, and she didn't react. And afterwards, she thanked me for trusting her enough to show her and told me that she understood how hard it was for me.

I've had T's ask, and some I showed, others I could not due to the location... Then I was asked to describe... a few times I was asked to see my APRN or my Dr. about them, just to make sure they were ok (when they were in a concealed spot). When I was asked to show a professional I trusted, I have always complied. If I did not trust the person though, they did not get to see. The T's that I have refused to show ether because I did not yet trust them or the wounds were in an inopportune spot have all been ok with me refusing. We did talk about them though... To this day there are only a select few people I am comfortable talking about it with...

T asked me once to show him my scars, and I did. He looked at them very closely, and was not grossed out or uncomfortable at all. The only thing he said was that certain ones were almost impossible to see, and the others he still had to be looking for to see. This was really what I needed to hear (it was in the context of discussing how ashamed I was of the scars). Knowing that they weren't appallingly obvious was important to me.

So T asked today. I showed her explained why I "switched styles", how long they'll take to heal and the scars to fade, What I would do if they are still red later.

Good for you for sharing those with her. How do you feel about it?

My T has asked and I refused because I just couldn't show him. I felt so guilty afterwards that I took a picture with my phone of my arm and sent it to him so that he would know that they weren't dangerous.

There was one incident where we were talking about it, and my T said, "You never showed me, so I don't know." Her gaze fell (this is the first and only time she's ever not looked at me directly) to my arm... which was covered by my jacket.
That was the last we spoke about it.

I'm really mad about SI'ing. It's still healing after almost 3 weeks. We have yet to really talk about it. I flew off into some other topic. T was/is really concerned because in the 2 yrs of working I have never SI'd.

Wow, I'm really surprised to read these responses.

I only started therapy about a month ago when I went to the counseling center on campus. I mentioned in my intake that I SH and was immediately made to see a psychiatrist.
The psychiatrist physically barred me from leaving her office until I showed her my arms (even though I hadn't said that was where I SH). She also verbally threatened me with being sent to hospital if I did not show her.

When I went in for a second appointment for intake, the therapist then made me show her my arms, too. I was in tears both times, it was so overwhelming and humiliating.

I'm really glad that other people have not been forced into that situation.

My current T asked me to show her... said that it was part of the healing process. I denied her requests the first two times, and then finally showed her when things were bad. I saw her today, and brought up SI again.. this time she just asked how bad it was, and didn't ask to see. It might have been because the cuts were in a sensitive area this time, or maybe she just wanted to initially see them to gauge how severe I was doing it?