[tomboy2011]

i been having urges to do other stuff than just cut....(like hitting...)its hard for me to even post about but i need some advise... idk if im just a freak or what idk how to handle them or what to do and im scared to tell anyone becouse they will tell me im in danger of myself or just tell me im a freak ..... any advise on how to handle the urges will help....

[GirlOfManyFaces]

You're not a freak. Just think of it this way... Whatever idea pops into your head, somebody has already been there and overcome it. So you are never alone.
Just stop and think before you self harm. Keep a journal and a pencil near by.

Ask yourself why you are doing it?
Why emotion are you feeling?
And if you do it, how do you feel afterwards?

It's really helpful. It's just a little exercise at first. But hopefully in time you will just journal instead if SI.

Best wishes. Stay strong.

[adam_k]

Self harm is a way of coping. It is complicated for most people to understand. It is a sign that something is wrong, mostly emmotional, or a mood disorder. Your not a freak and those feelings come from guilt because you know self injury is not healthy. I think you are looking for a way to cope, but you lack the skills. I would reccomend therapy if you can manage it. Also girlofmanyfaces has a good suggestion about keeping a journal. A journal will help you examine why you do it and what you get out if it. Hopefully you can find better resolution to you problems than self harm.

I find self harm to be a cycle. There would be some event that triggered feelings such as inadequatacy or rejection, or personal failure, then I would start to feel depressed, or I would feel intense anger for myself. Then I would get the urge to self harm. I would feel relief or numbness. Then the feeling would return on top of guilt and shame for self harming and I would do it again.

You're not a freak. Not at all. I used to hit myself all the time when I was a kid. Probably starting around age 8 or 9. Whenever I had a thought in my head that scared me or I didn't like I would smack myself on the head until it went away. Like for some reason I was always terrified my mom was going to die and whenever I started worrying about that I just hit myself on the head until it vanished and then I was fine. I don't know why I did that but eventually I stopped doing it and I started cutting/burning myself when I was 14.

Watching a funny movie, taking a shower, dancing, cooking, etc. are all good distractions. Take care of yourself.

XO,
Courtney

[beautifulfreak]

You are not alone in this… it's so hard and so hard to talk about. At least you can be assured that people here can empathise with what you are saying. We are all experiencing similar…you have us around you ok.

[Idiot17]

You are no freak. Girlofmanyfaces suggestion about a journal has helped me in the past, at times i got distracted writing and then didn't si. You're not all alone in these feelings. ((((tomboy2011))))