[Jane102]

Ok so Ive been SI-ing for a while. I tild my parents about it exactly a week ago, my mom took me to get help but they like havnt helped yet cause its been all assesments and stuff which is to be expected. Me and mt dad got in a fight(not physical, just verbal)today and he started brining up stuff like how I want 'special treatment' cause I do it to myself(Im also getting help for suicide) but it just hurt and made me angry cause like I gyess I am doing it to muself but its become an addiction and i want to stop but its hard. He expects tgat after one week of assesments that Im meant to be hetter, Im just getting worse an he isnr helping. I never exhpected him to care ir to help me, i just wish he'd have enough cortusy to leave me alonw, Im trying to just ugnore him but he dosnt like tgat, he needs someone to take his qnger out on. Im seventeen I dont want this, i shoukd be out with my friends gaving fun, not doing this. I jyst needed
a place to kinda rant..

*Sorry for the bad spelling, i typed that really fast and mt phones ao messed up uf i try to fix it itll start deleting random stuff

[kaliope]

im glad to see that you reached out to your parents for help, but sorry that your dad isn't more supportive. that must be stressful for you. I hope you feel better now that you got that all out. we are here to support you at PC. keep posting.

[Jane102]

Originally Posted by kaliope

im glad to see that you reached out to your parents for help, but sorry that your dad isn't more supportive. that must be stressful for you. I hope you feel better now that you got that all out. we are here to support you at PC. keep posting.

Thank you <3

[ThisWayOut]

My dad was the same way when he was told about my eating disorder back in high school... I never let him in after that, even with the si. It's been 20 years since he was told, and to this day He thinks the ed was for attention... sorry you are going through this. Is hard enough to open up let alone when it's so badly received.

[musicflows]

Dads are like that. They want to be able to fix everything and become frustrated when there's no solution.

You mentioned you don't feel you need your dad's support, so it's okay if he doesn't understand. However, if you want to help him understand (because he does love you and his reaction is probably more because he hates what's going on and that he can't fix it), then you can write him a letter or try to find another way to explain it to him like giving him some research sources that support your point.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's not a pleasant battle.

[Spirit king]

People are like that. They don't know how hard it is to stop.

[Victoria'smom]

When my mom found out she told my dad to 'deal' with me. Not just was I humiliated by my dad having to drive to where I was staying and his anger but I almost got kicked out of where I lived. Let it blow over but make sure you get help.

[Jane102]

Thanks everyone. Just a little update the help I was getting basically perscribed me some tablets and told me to go awat and come back in 6 weeks, I need help now not in 6 weeks, what if the tablets dont work, I feel like sh** right now.

[Jane102]

Originally Posted by musicflows

Dads are like that. They want to be able to fix everything and become frustrated when there's no solution.

You mentioned you don't feel you need your dad's support, so it's okay if he doesn't understand. However, if you want to help him understand ( (because he does love you and his reaction is probably more because he hates what's going on and that he can't fix it), then you can write him a letter or try to find another way to explain it to him like giving him some research sources that support your point.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's not a pleasant battle.

Thanks for the kind words but my dad has never loved me but Ive learned to live with it... Which is kind of sad...

Originally Posted by musicflows

Dads are like that. They want to be able to fix everything and become frustrated when there's no solution.....

Dead on accurate (speaking as a dad).

I am guessing you are not a parent. (old person phrase warning) If you were a parent - you would understand. But (back to real life) maybe you can relate if you have a pet or maybe a very young neice/nephew.

There is NOTHING you would not do to protect that person. Your heart breaks when you can not help. My "guess" is your dad *barked* at you because he is frustrated with HIMSELF - for not being able to fix your problem. He is hurting too.

Try to be patient with him, and ask him to be more patient with you...

I think you will both turn out okay.