[cherrykix]

I self-injured last night after going almost a year without. I am feeling so ashamed of myself, but I just didn't know what to do! I am afraid to tell my boyfriend because he gets really upset when I do. I am afraid to tell my parents because they worry. I am afraid to tell my therapists because it shows how unstable I am.

Who do I tell?

[meganb22]

That's a hard place you're in. Do you have any close family or friends (besides your parents and boyfriend?) that you feel comfortable enough to tell? If not, I encourage you to tell your therapist. I have had to deal with this as well and know how ashamed I felt having to tell my mom/friend/therapist what I did. But sometimes telling someone and talking about what made you self-injure is helpful. Yes, it may worry them, but I would think they would rather know so they can try and help you. I know that when I try to hide it I feel anxious and like there is a giant sign over my head that says "I CUT! I CUT!" As guilty as I feel, it feels good to get it out.

Good luck

I feel your fear. I think it's probably best that you tell your therapist first. They will be able to offer you the support that you need. And they can't help unless they know what is going on for you

[Fizzyo]

Originally Posted by secretwhisper

I feel your fear. I think it's probably best that you tell your therapist first. They will be able to offer you the support that you need. And they can't help unless they know what is going on for you

I agree, it's scary, especially if the therapist doesn't bring up the topic, but they may surprise you with their response. You did so well abstaining for a whole year and falling off the wagon is understandable. Your therapist may help you identify the trigger(s) and support you if you want to stop again. They may see telling them and taking responsibility as a better sign of 'stability' than keeping it a secret. ( I hope this doesn't sound preachy, I really admire how well you have done so far and so understand the desire to start again) the best of luck as you work out what is best for you in your situation.