[InACorner]

I have a question

When you cut and your bf/gf or SO finds out...as they always do....do they ever lightly hit...not slam...but just tap hard enough on the cuts to make you wince? Or do they ever rub up against them when they know it causes you great pain? And only stop if your crying, then apologize, or just enough until you scream stop and push them away... If they do why do they do that? What is their thinking on this That they dont do it often but like once or twice everytime they find out youve fallen off the trail....who knows...im at a loss of understanding what the fun is in it....

Maybe it's not fun for him, maybe it's his way of showing you that he's angry at you? I don't know.
((((((Inny))))))) I really don't think he's enjoying making you feel the pain. If he does then you have to leave him, which I really, really don't believe is the case. Do you think so?

[InACorner]

no...i dont think he enjoys it...

Maybe you can talk to him about it? If it's hurting you that he does this, maybe he wants you to talk to him about it? Have you tried?

[ickydog2006]

I think you really need to address this issue with him. My fiance has never done anything that but it sort of sound like training an animal or a really small child- when they do something you don't like you punish them, often physically, and sometimes what they did wrong as a sort of negative reinforcement technique. (little kid touches stove, it burns him, kid learns that that action gives a negative response, kid no longer touches stove... you cut, it is used as a punishment by someone else i.e. negative response to you cutting, you no longer cut <- I know not realistic result but my guess is somethign along that line is going through his head... keep in mind this is just my guess as to what he is thinking).

I wish you the best of luck at dealing with this situation, I really feel you need to confront him about this (in a non-aggressive way) though.

<font color="#000088">I kindof agree with ickydogs responce in a way. I think it's possible that he may be trying to get you to stop, by making you feel more pain from your cuts than you felt when you originally cut them in the first place. Kindof punishing you like a kid, hoping that if he does that, it might get you to stop! But it's definately wrong for him to be doing that, it's actually dangerous really. They could get infected by him touching them, and it's a pain control issue to!
I agree that you should have a talk with him about it, but be very careful, because of his control issues!
I don't want to see him hurt you any worse over it! </font>