MY new T wants to be able to "see" what I have done?

The only time this happened was in the hospital.

Anyone's T ask for this?????

[bchlyn]

yes...my t insist that i show him... it's really hard... and i feel really exposed... but at the same time i know he really cares... and is trying to keep me safe...lyn

[Christina86]

no... can't say my T's have ever asked to see it. Then again, it wasnt ever really a focus of therapy. (I kept it mostly to myself... and didnt let any of my Ts know until LONG into therapy).

if you dont like it, maybe ask for their reasoning, and ask if you *dont* have to show them?

[Kiya]

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MY new T wants to be able to "see" what I have done?

The only time this happened was in the hospital.

Anyone's T ask for this?????



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yup - my old t did... every week.... twice a week, even.

[x_BabyG_x]

The first time I ever went for an assessment to see if I needed therapy he asked to see mine... and then showed me his to make me feel more comfortable!

maybe you new T would be able to get a better concept of how badly it is if T is able to see your marks

babyg xxx

[Monty_girl]

My T does ask to see what I have done. I think that it's out of caring that I'm OK and not of need for medical attention that he ask. He then ask if I'm caring for them. Could this be your T's reasoning for asking to see?

[Cthomas]

She dosent always ask, but every now and again asks me to roll up sleeves, pant leg......but for the most part she believes me.....so i have no reason to hide the scars should i have done something.

Its probably a way to show they care. i know for me it is.

Take care...hope this helps
colleen

Yes, sometimes.

[splitimage]

I've mostly stopped si'ing but the last time I did it, my T asked to see. I think she was just trying to see how severe it was. My pdoc has never asked.

--splitimage

Yes he asks. Sometimes I voluntarily show him. Sometimes he tells me leave my sleeve rolled up to show me that he accepts this as a part of me and he does not view me as disgusting or disturbed.

i dont have a T but i know if i did i would never show them

[jacq10]

my pdoc asked to see... but part of the reason i went to see her was for SI. I never did end up showing her.. when she asked i guess my face gave it away that i didn't really want to, and so then she said i didn't have to if i didn't want to.. so i didn't. That would have been way out of my comfort level.

[Kiya]

gosh - my MD didn't leave me a choice. I finally confided to her that i SI and just briefly pointed them out then covered them again. She came right over, said "Let me see." It was not a request. She took my arm, moved the sleeve and ran her finger over them. Then we talked more about it (me, in my dissociated space) and then she came back over saying, "Let me see those again".

[inkblot]

My T would ask to see and I showed him. I think it kind of shows that you trust the T if you are able to do it and be open about it with T. Or something else that somebody might need to work on if too embarrassed or afraid to show. I think it's a good thing to do. I think it will tell my T that I trust him, and that my T trusts me. I know that my T would want me to be honest and open with him. Hope this helps!

[jenniferever]

Yes, my psychiatrist asked to see mine, and I showed him (It was on my arms so I didn't like have to take anything off). I didn't have a problem showing him because he is a doctor and I go to him so he can help me. I guess the reason he asked was to get an idea of how severe it was. Now, a therapist, I might be a little less willing to show it, I would have to have a relationship with them first.

[bchlyn]

yeah...mine doesn't give me a choice either... he won't let me leave unless i show him... he also won't let me get away with shrugging my shoulders when he wants to talk about it... he is very clear that he will do what he needs to do to keep me safe... when i have to show him i feel really exposed... but in the same sense...i know that he cares enough to make sure i am ok... even when i don't care...lyn

[Kiya]

I am glad he cares so much about you lyn. it is odd, my PsyD has never asked to see them (i've mentioned my MD feels more like a T to me, even more than T), but my MD has. Even today when T asked how it's been going and i was rubbing them because they hurt, she did not. After all my experiences, i expect her to. I can't tell what i feel about that - relieved, or ingored. odd...

[the_Lee]

I've had to show when in the hospital
and one made me meet with my doctor who'd look them report back