[psych1168]

I began self injury (cutting) several months ago. When I cut I feel as if I'm releasing the bad in me and it eases the anger/tension I feel at the time. I cannot get my husband to understand why I do this. I understand that people have a hard time understanding things like this...but when a person has been showing emotional instability for a time and then they begin this --- to me it's a little obvious. How can I explain to my husband in a way that he would understand?

[darkrunner]

psych1168

wow - that's a great question. I wonder if anyone (but a T) could understand the reason why unless they feel it themselves.

You said, When I cut I feel as if I'm releasing the bad in me and it eases the anger/tension I feel at the time.

This makes sense to me, and I think it is a good explanation. Your husband may not be able to understand this, and it is probably scary for him to see you hurting yourself. Do you see a therapist? - because I was thinking if you did maybe you could take your husband to one session and the T could help explain to you husband and help him understand how to deal with it.

Best wishes to you, and welcome to PC.

ktgirl

[x_BabyG_x]

You know, I have the exact same problem. He just doesnt seem to get it... anyone?? - x

[bipolar_bear]

SI is a very hard thing for someone to understand who has not experienced it. When the emotional pain gets overwhelming sometimes one turns to SI to release this pain. I am sorry you are feeling pain to this degree.

I think a T is a great idea to help explain why you feel the need to SI. There are books and organizations to help provide information also.

I am glad you found us and hope you find support here.

BB