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Jul 10, 2020 at 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ;13270

I have been on the net since almost before AOL started, so you might say I have seen/heard of and read of everything, but recently I am seeing more and more forums devoted to totally bizarre things I can't fathom, I mean tatoos were bad enough... Maybe Dr Grohol can type some kind of professional opinion as a mental health practitioner.

Without going into details, I am seeing forums like personal web sites, blogs, postings, photos, entire forums just like this one with dozens or hundreds of users, and that sort of thing describing the author's fettish/want for etc., torture, pain, serious permanent self surgery such as becoming a eunich or worse, piercing, mutilation, amputation, slavery, being severely spanked, being humiliated, being treated like a dog, and seriously disturbing things involving body waste, injections and so on.

I find this stuff and I just can't believe it, and over and over I can't help but ask myself what is wrong with these people????

To me I see some serious psychological problems that I am certain go to early childhood, especially the spanking to the point where there is actual skin damage!
I thought I saw everything and I'm real open minded but this kind of thing is absolutely something that cries out; HELP ME!!!!!

I can't possibly think of anything other than that- some severe childhood trauma the person may not even remember, and a cry for help coming out in adulthood manifesting itself with these kinds of self-defeating damaging activities.

I can sort of understand "cutting" as it applies to people who might be HERE, depressed etc, but that is not what I'm seeing, I'm seeing more of a boastfull "Hey, look what I did, isn't that cool!!"

I don't get it, anyone want to offer some insite from a professional perspective?

i think you may be describing me as one who is amongst the worst of what you are talking about. and i agree with you 100%. since you are a guest, i hope you return to see my reply. i don’t like any of the bad stuff i’ve done and for much of my life my sexuality as feminine desires has been a humiliating and haunting thing with sex with other men as torment and torture but here i am discovering that i can try to be a woman at least on this site and i’m actually finding comfort and thinking maybe all the other self harm stuff may fade away. i really feel good here about my feminine side and allowing it to take over. i’m hoping that there is still a chance to actually have a sex change. it seems very right. so maybe other people can also find ways that may not seem totally away from self harm or “bad” but actually turn out to be good and helpful.. i’ll be happy to become a woman if that stops my self harm and i just think i really want to be female too. it fits me right. maybe not being a woman is why i self harmed to begin with. what do you think?

Rapunzel · Jan 05, 2004 at 01:58 PM

There are a couple of websites I have shared a couple of times here that have helpful information about SI and support for self injurers. I hope it's okay - I want to put those URLs here where they will stay at the top of the board for easy reference, so that we can find them easily. (I keep having to do a search and find them again myself after my computer crashed and I lost my bookmarks.)

Here they are:
http://www.siari.co.uk/

"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung

becca · Feb 05, 2004 at 01:42 PM

Hi,
My names Rebecca and thanks for having this room...
i wrote a poem when i was with mentalearth.com and from that point on had most of my treads deleted.It made me SI when i havent for a couple of weeks.
i repect the fact that on here you must use the trigger sign,but by putting restrictions on relaying feelings is feeding the belly of the beast

so thanks!

Becca

blackdragon · Jul 01, 2004 at 03:59 PM

I like being able to talk about how im feeling. At my house thats a big No-No. Everytime i try to say something its allways Shut up i dont want to hear about it or go away. So its nice to talk here. Plus its also helpful since im scared of crowds and since everyone is like a million miles asway from me i dont haft to worrie about this spreading around my town like wild fire. (i live in a small town full of gossip)

Rapunzel · Jul 06, 2004 at 06:01 PM

Not being allowed to say what you feel (emotional invalidation) is a possible cause of self-injury. You need to be able to express yourself without being told that you can´t or that you are wrong. This is a place like that. I am glad you found us. Welcome.

"Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. - Winston Churchill "

selfy · Mar 17, 2007 at 04:38 PM

my self injury has spread around two whole schools of about 1500 pupils. this is what happens when you talk to a gp. if anyone has anything to say about us being bad people, then you obviously hate the subject. so why are you here???

Russhell · Oct 08, 2013 at 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by blackdragon

I like being able to talk about how im feeling. At my house thats a big No-No. Everytime i try to say something its allways Shut up i dont want to hear about it or go away. So its nice to talk here. Plus its also helpful since im scared of crowds and since everyone is like a million miles asway from me i dont haft to worrie about this spreading around my town like wild fire. (i live in a small town full of gossip)

I also live in a small town where when people who have seem my cutting have put up a fuss and I was let go of a job. Cutting for me is a way for me to be able to go out in public and not be so anxious; medicine makes me sleepy and SI allows for instant calm and no sleepiness.
I wish people would not be so judgmental. I don't even like to leave my house and over five years, I have become very lonely.

SoullessOne · May 30, 2005 at 03:57 AM

Thank you for this board. Just reading what other have posted has really helped me to see that I'm not alone in my struggles.

dorine · Aug 28, 2007 at 11:04 PM

Thanks DocJohn

I am new to this PC and saw this room. Its been a few months that I havn't self injured and it's taking alot of doing. I am using different coping skills to deal with the sadness and it's helping. I'm not saying it isn't a struggle because it is but it's worth doing things differently. I am glad there is a place to talk about this subject and others who are fighting to change these actions. Thanks again Welcome to the self injury room

Jun 28, 2008 at 12:49 AM

Thank You Very Much for creating the Self Injury section. I suffer from Bipolar and Social Anxiety Disorders and sometimes its just not appropriate to speak of in those sections, some people just dont understand.

I am new to the Psych Central Site and I already love it. I run my own group on Yahoo Health Groups but I was reading tonight and googled something and came across this awesome website packed with all sorts of information!!! I really enjoy it here so far.

Thanks Again
Take Care Doc
Mikey/PA

silentandscared · Aug 15, 2008 at 08:51 PM

Hi
I am new to this and l can see why you may have apprehensions but this is probably the only place that l can talk about my cuttting as no one understands or even wants to understand.
So once again thank you

RHONDA FRANKS · Oct 02, 2008 at 01:13 PM

John,

think that this site is good for cutter's like me. I'm 34 married for the third time and have two boys 6 and 7. My husband now who is really a blessing in my life has taught me to Stop, Pray and Listen to what God is going to say.
It has taken a lot on my part as well to calm myself down, think and make that call to my husband before I do something stupid and cut again.
It is called self dicipline and it takes a lot of it. If a person is really tired of being sick and tired, they will want to do something about it in their life. You are only a victim as long as you allow yourself to be one. I know, I am a domestic violence survivor and I am no longer a victim because I will not allow that person to have control over my life any longer.

Good job with this site.

Cheers,
RHONDA FRANKS

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Originally Posted by DocJohn

Hi folks,

I'm often a little wary or concerned when asked to create this forum, because I'm afraid that it will feed the self injury behavior rather than be a support or help to its members.

Having said that, I did create the room and hope that all of you make supportive, helpful, and as positive as possible use of it. I hope you find it helpful to talk to one another to find a way to reduce the self injury behavior, rather than just sharing it with one another.

Please take care of yourself and each other.

Best,
John

PS - Please use the trigger icon for your post if it has triggering material in it. This is new as of August, 2003. Thank you and take care.

musicislife · Feb 12, 2009 at 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by DocJohn

Hi folks,

I'm often a little wary or concerned when asked to create this forum, because I'm afraid that it will feed the self injury behavior rather than be a support or help to its members.

Having said that, I did create the room and hope that all of you make supportive, helpful, and as positive as possible use of it. I hope you find it helpful to talk to one another to find a way to reduce the self injury behavior, rather than just sharing it with one another.

Please take care of yourself and each other.

Best,
John

PS - Please use the trigger icon for your post if it has triggering material in it. This is new as of August, 2003. Thank you and take care.

Thanks for making this room because I never tell anyone about self-injury. Whenever my psych asks me, I deny everything.

Forever&Always · Apr 27, 2010 at 07:32 PM

Thanks!!! This is going to be so helpful for me because I've been having trouble with SI and it's nice to see I'm not the only one and there is help out there!

KeepHoldingOn · May 05, 2010 at 02:21 AM

Hey Apple!

Feel free to talk about them as much as you want here.

You didn’t have to use the trigger button for that but when in doubt use it. Use it if you’re going to post something or including details that you think might be triggering to others or when mentioning SU or anything of that nature. Use your best judgement as to when you should use the trigger button. If you still have questions check here: http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=107951

AmadeusApple · May 05, 2010 at 03:48 AM

^_^ Thanks.
I was just testing, wanted to make sure.
Because no one wants to hear sordid details without a trigger icon, I'm sure.

AmadeusApple · May 05, 2010 at 05:24 AM

So... here goes.
I've really never talked about this episode and from all the times I can remember, this was the scariest... the kind that you finish and you just stare at what you've done, "....." like that.

So, as kind of a prelude... I met this guy at work and... I'm kind of impulsive, so we flirted (quite suggestively), a lot... and all that jazz.

So, I end up inviting him over, presumably to watch a movie... not quite what happened, but... um... there is something very awkward about... doing... things in your parent's basement.

So, after he had gone home... my dad kind of questioned me about what we had been doing in the basement, his intentions weren't bad or anything... but I ended up telling him what had happened.
And it didn't go over very well, and I got called a ***** (understandably, I hardly knew the guy, after all).

And I just snapped, I went back downstairs... and I really didn't even have control of what I was doing. I went in to the storage room and found a pair of scissors and then I just sat down and cut myself, and cut myself more.
I don't know how long I sat there in the creepy trance-like state cutting myself, but I ended up with over 60 cuts on my forearms.

My dad felt awful when he found out what had happened, but honestly, the knee-jerk reaction makes complete sense, him being my dad and all.
Thankfully he didn't go shoot or maim my now fiancé. ^_^; I'm sure he wanted to.

AmadeusApple · May 28, 2010 at 11:36 AM

Well, I must... say that I didn't mean to kill the thread. o.o

jaekae · Aug 09, 2010 at 04:29 PM

Thanks for putting this on here, I have a new friend who does this and talks about it openly as if she was just going to the shops. I don't understand it so hopefully places like this can help me to understand, cause it's difficult to know what to say or do as someone on the outside looking in.

BunBun7402 · Oct 10, 2010 at 09:04 AM

Thanks Doc John!! I've recently started cutting again after 8 years of not. So it's nice to have found a place where other ppl. "get me". I hope I can get get can some help here, as well as well as give some.

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becca New Member Member Since Feb 2004 Location: Cheshire.UK Posts: 1 20	Feb 05, 2004 at 01:42 PM #3 Hi, My names Rebecca and thanks for having this room... i wrote a poem when i was with mentalearth.com and from that point on had most of my treads deleted.It made me SI when i havent for a couple of weeks. i repect the fact that on here you must use the trigger sign,but by putting restrictions on relaying feelings is feeding the belly of the beast so thanks! Becca
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Forever&Always Member Member Since Apr 2010 Posts: 56 14	Apr 27, 2010 at 07:32 PM #14 Thanks!!! This is going to be so helpful for me because I've been having trouble with SI and it's nice to see I'm not the only one and there is help out there! __________________ Forever&Always
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AmadeusApple Member Member Since May 2010 Location: Utah Posts: 235 14	May 28, 2010 at 11:36 AM #18 Well, I must... say that I didn't mean to kill the thread. o.o
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jaekae Junior Member Member Since Aug 2010 Posts: 10 13	Aug 09, 2010 at 04:29 PM #19 Thanks for putting this on here, I have a new friend who does this and talks about it openly as if she was just going to the shops. I don't understand it so hopefully places like this can help me to understand, cause it's difficult to know what to say or do as someone on the outside looking in. __________________ The Best Things In Life Aren't Things
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BunBun7402 Junior Member Member Since Oct 2010 Location: Buffalo, NY Posts: 10 13	Oct 10, 2010 at 09:04 AM #20 Thanks Doc John!! I've recently started cutting again after 8 years of not. So it's nice to have found a place where other ppl. "get me". I hope I can get get can some help here, as well as well as give some.
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