Trying to stop

So I'm trying to stop with cutting myself but the problem for me is that cutting is like a comfort zone because whenever i cut / see the cuts, i feel in control of my life hence the comfort zone. I know theres that way where you can draw with red pen or whatever but that just seems so silly to me i dont know.. any thoughts/ comments?

Thanks

Try being silly, what's the worst it could do? Exactly what do you need to be in control of?

It's hard to explain but whenever im dealing with stress, stress seems to take control of me so i cut in order to take control? its weird

You cut because everything outside of you seems like you can't fix?

yeahh... or take control of... i like control haha

I can relate. Well, I guess it's good that you recognize one of your triggers as the feeling of not being in control. When we start recognizing our feelings sometimes we can catch ourselves before we are over the edge and we can substitute a different behavior or action rather than SI. Maybe you could write down a list of why you feel so overwhelmed or of what things that you can do nothing about? Then write a list of alternative behaviors or of positive things you have control over. When I hurt myself to feel in control I really am not. I injured myself. If I was in control I wouldn't have. Maybe it doesn't make sense? Each time that I have hurt myself to feel in control I have hurt myself bad enough to leave scars. Oftentimes I have had no intention of hurting myself that badly so was I really in control? Did it make me feel in control? Or did it try to make me not feel like I was losing control?

I'm here for you whenever. Take care of yourself. You are not alone.

How about really gaining control over your life? I'll bet your feelings feel the most out of control? No one can control feelings. The best that we can do is learn how to deal with them so that they don't get bottled up. This bottling is what makes them so out of control because feelings are supposed to be dealt with....

This makes sense when you explain that stressors bring out the urges? The stressors bring out the feelings that feel out of control?

Do you try and take control of the situation, the feelings of yourself, the feelings of the other person, or what ever trigered it? Because Cutting will deffinatly take control over the situation if its noticable. And if your trying to take control of your feelings then you just digging a pit into what was a small ditch. And yes control over another person even if they dont know it will affect u. But if they do know it it'll affect you in a negitive way, and the out come may turn out bad. and if you just rebelling against say, the door closed on you and the knob hit you in the back and you were irratible, what is that going to do. i mean now you not really controlling anything if you think about it.