[here today]

Yet again. I feel like my life is such a disappointment and failure. It's not depression really but I am all out of motivation. I WA$ keeping on keeping on, believing, wishing therapy might "fix" me and in a way it has. But that hasn't fixed my life ( no life ) and I feel just too tired to try to do that. What's the point? Look for the good?

OK, well, I have been invited to come live with my son and his family which includes a two year old and a two month old. Not in the home but in their beautiful town all the way on the other side of the USA. My physical health is good. I'm 68 and both my parents lasted until 89. Hope says go. Not sure about reason. But it's exciting. Just after so long with everything being terrible it's hard to get up off the bed to start all that needs to get done to clear out, downsize, etc.

Any thoughts? Suggestions? Cautions?

[Skeezyks]

Hello here today. The Skeezyks is also 68. About 4 years ago my spouse & I sold our single family home & bought a townhome. It required a lot of downsizing! It was work but it was, in its own way, freeing. Yes, your move across the country will be a lot of work. But, assuming you're comfortable with where you'll be going, I'd say: "Go for it!"

We found a person who does estate sales who took all of our excess stuff & added it to another estate sale he was doing. (We didn't have enough to do our own.) He came & hauled our stuff away & sent us a check for what we made on it. We certainly didn't get rich from the proceeds. But it was a relatively easy way of getting rid of it all.

I can certainly relate to what you wrote about life being such a disappointment & failure. I feel this way. In my case there's no one to blame but myself really. Too late to do anything about it now. I just keep to myself & watch the days drift by one after the other.

Good luck!

[Gus1234U]

you might find, as i did, that all the work of moving, and the emotional stress of not knowing what your new life will be like, will fall upon you after you are there. this is not uncommon, the delayed effects of all that (good and bad) stress. be prepared to rest, sleep, sleep and rest, for a long time afterwards. don't over schedule yourself. let you have the time you need to settle in, and make friends slowly~! that's the advice....

the encouragement part: you are taking a bold step into a new life~ that is a brave and often rewarding thing to do. the fact that your son and his family want you in their life is so encouraging~! not to be left alone, far from family, makes the effort well worth it~!

[Nammu]

Getting to see and be with the grand kids really helps make sense out of life.

Hire movers to pack you up and box it up ship it out there in a container. you get out there than bring the container to where you live unload it and return the container.
everyone downsizes when they get older it is a part of life

[BettyA]

Follow your heart! And I wish you the best of luck. I think its wonderful that your son and family love you so much they WANT you close by! And you are still a 'youngun' ' to me, being you are just 68 (I am 79) My feeling is that you would love it! You quite possibly will have some wonderful new adventures! Bless you real good!