All alone. 64 & divorced. All siblings and close friends have passed on.

Kids and grandkid don’t live close and too far to travel. So many problems - health, money and just no one.

Been up half the night wondering what I have going for me.....not much.

If I could find just one person to talk to, but I rarely go out.

Try meetup groups and they can be found online. There are groups for various interests such as knitting, movies, etc, or cards, reading and book of the month group.

Hi, Martha. I also am alone, but never lonely. My one daughter lives overseas in Kazakhstan. I tend to isolate myself, not going out unless absolutely necessary. But as I said, I'm never lonely. Probably because I spent 20+ years in an unhappy marriage, only leaving after my daughter left for college. I had longed the whole time to be free, and finally did so. That said, yes, I could be lonely, but I spend my time working on my art. Do you have hobbies? Do you have neighbors who are friendly? After my divorce, at age 47, I did try dating online. I don't recommend that, as it led to a lot of disasters for me, and loss of income. Sorry, too much information here, but there are lots of predators out there for the lonely vulnerable. I'm grateful to still have my health at age 68, can support myself financially, and can maintain a moderately healthy outlook. (Message me if you wish.)

Well, now you have us too.

Hello Martha! Welcome to Psych Central! I get scared sometimes too and feel alone even with one brother just down the road. I have a disabled son that lives with me and I worry how he will manage when I'm gone. It's no fun getting old! Hugs!

Thank you, unaluna and IowaFarmGal and hugs to both of you! I've been awake since the middle of the night when panic attack set in. Been trying to get some things done, but it is SO hard! All I would really like to do on this gorgeous day is sit, but I have been checking back on this website hoping that someone would reply and help me get motivated to do something.

Is it a gorgeous day there? We have snow in April! 3-7 inches they're saying! Are you near the beach? I haven't been to the ocean in a long time. I miss the sound of the waves now that I live up north again.

IowaFarmGal:
I do live by the water. I can see the water from my driveway. Sometimes, it is in my driveway and backyard during hurricanes.
But, it is a gorgeous day here today. Unfortunately, I don't really feel like enjoying it.
Isn't it amazing how everything in life comes crashing down on you at once, like a ton of bricks?

I don't think I really have anything useful to add here. But wanted to leave just a brief reply letting you know I read your post... & I wish you well...

Hang in there. Things will get better.

Hello, all you new folks to Psych Central and/or to this forum.

I would hope if I ever live with one of my children--I don't think they would even ask me--that I could pitch in somehow. Fold clothes, cook, watch the grandkids, or something. I hope they would tell me how they feel and if they see me as a burden, I could somehow make things better. But I'd want to have my own life, too-get out some, if I could or even get out of their sight for a bit.

I still have my hubby. I need to learn to be more independent in case he dies first. But I suffer from lots of pain as well as bipolar. He is bipolar, too. We take our meds and see our health specialists and learn to cope when one of us is sleeping a lot or whatever.

I do think hobbies are important. I'm not crafty, but I read and write, color pictures, and watch a lot of TV--as well as coming here and getting involved.

I belong to a writers' group associated with my church, too. That's something new ,and I am blessed for that!

Thank you, Skeezyks.

You live right on the beach? Is the sound soothing for you? I used to like going to the pier and listening to the waves. Quite often it was in the evening and the wind was chilly blowing in. I volunteer at the Senior Center in town. They have card groups, and a quilting group, and a group of ladies that go to the pool together to work out and then share a pot luck breakfast. We used to serve breakfast and lunch but breakfast was cancelled a while back. Is there a Senior Center in your town? It would be a place to meet people.

Hi, Martha, and welcome!

Thank you, Travelinglady.

IowaFarmGal
I don't live on the beach, but by a tributary (bayou) to the greater gulf - so, no beach, no waves right by where I live. I do live within a mile of the beach. It is lovely, but there are too many tourists, too many casinos (which I don't frequent), too much traffic. This used to be a sleepy little fishing town - quiet, friendly. It isn't any more. Maybe I have lived too long in one place. All of my neighbors are from other parts of the country, and I am the lone person who was born here, went to college here, married here, worked here, had a family here and still live HERE.
I was a senior center director in my working career. It is just not my thing. I mean I enjoyed it when I wasn't a senior. LOL But, bingo and group shopping trips or exercise groups are not high on my priority list.
I think my current depression and anxiety stem from my knee injury (six weeks ago tomorrow) which left me in great pain and on crutches. It would have been ok, but I live by myself and could not just sit and have someone (the nonexistent someone) cook for me or help me with things; so, that has extended my recovery time.
My philosophy throughout my life has been, "Life is a biotch, and then you die." I've enjoyed it, but this getting old without the energy and with injuries and pain is not what I was expecting. LOL Struggle is a part of life. Everyone deals with their own as best they can. I know that I have, but it has been a long road. I was hoping for something easier now that my kids are grown, married and successful, but life just keeps getting harder and harder. I used to laugh a lot. My kids would say that they could recognize me in a crowded store by my laughter. I don't laugh anymore. With all 4 of my siblings and my best friend dying within the last 10 years, life has just gotten......what is the purpose anymore?
Ah well, thank you for letting me write my early morning thoughts. If this doesn't get any response, it is ok. I just feel better writing them down. So, maybe that is the purpose of this forum for me....to just write to the unknown world that I am still in it....even if no one acknowledges me....in the real world or the virtual world.

Me too

Hi Martha,
I have no friends or family. I am 62 single and have two cats.

I feel unloved and unfulfilled most days, but I also know I am blessed and thankful for what I do have.

I used to get out some but lately I just can't so in a way I create my own loneliness. Vicious cycle.

You can PM me if you like.