Porn/Masturbating addiction

I cannot stop watching porn no longer than 1.5 week.I mean thats the maximum point I can thrive till, there onwards, I give in.

I am posting my problem here cuz its not right,religiously and health wise too. Some USA university just led out a research that masturbating in 20s and 30s can cause cancer. This scares me even more.

I hope I am table to find some good self therapy tips that involve cognitive or imaginative skills to help me get over this addiction. After Im done doing my thing, bad feelings come into me that I should not do it.At that point I get very strong,ok this is the last time, no more but the next day,temptation comes in again...Im getting tired of this now..pls help me..its going on for so many years now.

I believe that was ONE study that said masturbation could cause cancer (and even that study hardly could point to masturbation/ejaculation as the reason for the rise in cancer). You do not need to be afraid that you are doing something bad. I mean if you personally don't like masturbation, that's alright. But you aren't doing anything bad and I seriously doubt it would be a major contributing factor to cancer. Honestly, considering that most people masturbate (whether they admit it or not), seems like everyone would have cancer if that were even remotely accurate. Its perfectly natural to masturbate and nothing to feel so much remorse and shame over.

You're talking about 2 issues here - masturbation and porn. Masturbation on it's own is a normal healthy activity that men and women even children do. If you're in a committed rerlationship, then masturbation is fine so long as it remains supplementary -meaning it's not taking away from sex with your partner.

The same would go for porn. It becomes a problem if you become addicted to viewing it and masturbation becomes your predominent sexual activity. Another problem that comes from watching too much porn is 'desensitization' - this happens when the viewer starts to have trouble getting aroused in a normal sexual situation with a partner because he no longer finds regular sex stimulating - because he has become in the habit of always pushing the thresh holds of excessive stimulation. In other words regular sex seems boring.

If you're not happy with how you feel afterwards, then perhaps it's time you speak with a therapist about this. Do you have a regular sexual partner? I think you should start relying on your imagination to masturbate and doing this is perfectly normal. I don't think it causes cancer - if anything not having regular orgasms could cause prostate problems. Did you know even fetuses in the womb touch themselves. Everything in moderation is key. Good luck.

I am with you... This year I have been struggling with the same.
Now that porn is so accessible, endless, free, and enticing (I am talking about the internet) it is hard to resist
I seem to be able to be away from it for about 1 week, then the urge arises again.
For me it seems to be a form of scape, it is like an instant, easy high.
It is definitely affecting my relationship with my wife. It is a big secret which separates me from her.
I need help as well. Maybe we can do a verbal contract with each other or use each other as a resource not to waste so much time on pornography....

You have to substitute something else, in its place; can't just stop a habit and/or see what is up in your relationships that might make masturbation more "interesting" than doing other things, with other people.

I think there are plenty of studies showing that there's more negatives regarding pornography, than not. I agree that the two topics are different, yet if it's an addiction/addictions to which you're referring, you have to treat them both as such.

http://www.oprah.com/relationships/T...ffects-of-Porn

http://www.catholicnewsagency.com/ne...searcher_says/

http://reliableanswers.com/med/porn_addiction.asp

I think it's worth treating.

Yes I agree - masturbation by itself is fine as long as you're having a normal sex life but masturbation can also become addictive by itself or addiction to porn/masturbation.

My ex boyfriend used to be addicted to masturbating... Throughout the duration of our six year relationship. We rarely had sex. It greatly affected my self esteem.
Now I am in the industry myself... ironic... He actually urged me to get into it.
Despite this he still loved masturbating and the fantasy as opposed to real sex because he said it heightened his arousal and he could control his orgasm and get that pleasurable feeling for a more extended amount of time.

I've also heard different studies... Where ejaculation is GOOD for you physically... skin, hair, nails, etc...

For me the issue is not so much about masturbation but about not being able to stay away from the porn sites, and spending 1-2 hours at a time of my precious time with this obsessive behavior.
It was mentioned to substitute the behavior for something else... What does that mean, can you be specific?
I wonder why is being on the computer more exciting than having sex with my wife? this makes no sense to me at a deeper level....

Totally does not make sense Papa. I have similar issues. I am perpetually amazed my brains ability to suppliment masterbation for sex with my wife. I cannot really figure it out. As I look back on my life I see that it has always been this way. I am no where near knowing how to fix this. I'm glad I'm here instead of being at a porn site.

I have the same problem granted im a bit younger than you im guessing... but I seem to be unable to go very long without ummm... as you said doing my thing and after i do i feel terrible. I feel filthy and even un faith full to my girlfriend if it was to anything but the thought or a picture of her. I want to stop and every time i say ok thats it im done i slip back into it just like that. I want a way out of this vicious cycle and despratly want help to get over this... lets call it what it is an addiction