[MsTweeted]

I love bdsm. I read stories about it daily. Ihave had a little experience with it and think about it constantly but i am forbidden to talk about it, or to act upon it since my hubby became disabled. I want to talk to my T about it, but hubby wants me to just "get over it". I have no friends to talk to about this, and i hope to get some advise and opinions here. He doesnt know i am on this site, or that i can even get on the web on this nook tablet. He is very controlling and i have to be sneaky about all this. I feel like i am cheating on him every time i masturbate alone. We have been married 31 years and i am still wanting to do BDSM and he doesnt. Is it time for a divorce? Or do i just give up on my wants and needs?

[TheWell]

I definately think this is something to talk to your therapist about. Why don't you have any friends? Do you work or are you a part of any groups where you get out of the house? I'm a little worried that you are "forbidden" to do something. That doesn't sound like an equal partnership.

[Big Mama]

Definiately talk to the T about it, the BDSM.

I to am in a controlling relationship. (married 18 years) I am not allowed to use the computer when my H is home. He does not like it that I use it period. So it is 11:00 pm and I use it now. I understand how it is to have no friends. I stay at home with kids all day and all evening. I get a limited amount of money to ensure I stay at home because I don't have the gas money to go anywhere or to go grab a cup of coffee with anyone. I don't have anyone to grab a cup of coffee w/ anyway.

Have you talked to your T about the controlling relationship. I have and it is helping. Helping me cope. I didn't think a T would be so accepting of emotional abuse. But I also know she is on the look out for more than that. Be careful. As for the BSDM I have no advice there except talk to your T. It is good you let your H know even if he declined.