[char76]

Is it normal for females to watch porn online? I don't know if I am addicted or not, but I usually watch some every day. And yes, I always masturbate. I am single and don't think I am hurting anyone. But I never hear about females doing this, it is always men that I hear about. Any other females out there have this issue? I want to stop; I don't want to be addicted; but without a partner, what am I supposed to do?

I don't think it's only men, who partake in online porn, there's plenty of porn websites which are aimed specifically at women.

[ponder1973]

Originally Posted by char76

Is it normal for females to watch porn online? I don't know if I am addicted or not, but I usually watch some every day. And yes, I always masturbate. I am single and don't think I am hurting anyone. But I never hear about females doing this, it is always men that I hear about. Any other females out there have this issue? I want to stop; I don't want to be addicted; but without a partner, what am I supposed to do?

First of all, to each their own. Secondly, common behavior is not always "normal" behavior. Just because something is culturally accepted doesn't make it ok. The reverse is true as well. It can still be ok even if it is unusual behavior.

So, all that said, a sign of an addiction is if you try to stop but can't. Addictions are never good. I've come to accept that what is ok for some people isn't ok for me. Like alcohol is ok for most people, but not for alcoholics. I can't handle lust in the same way. Perhaps you are like me, maybe not. Try to stop for a month and see how it goes. If you can't stop, you're likely an addict.

[strong14]

I'm a female in my mid-twenties in a fulfilled relationship with a great guy... and I still watch porn and masturbate. If not every day then a couple of times a week. My boyfriend knows about it and thinks it's awesome that I'm so liberated and I know what my needs are. I know my female friends masturbate too... I don't know how often but I've talked to them about it a little... we're open like that. I feel it's fairly normal and people just very seldom talk about it because most religions consider it immoral... somehow more immoral than male masturbation?? I think it's certainly a behaviour with the potential to be addictive so if you feel you can't stop you should talk to someone. Otherwise you're just a girl with physical desires and visual curiosity and there's nothing wrong with that!

[hamster-bamster]

Online porn industry is a huge industry. If you just crunch the numbers you come to realize that without the female "contribution" they would have been impossible.

I had a couple of jobs on which I had to watch porn from time to time (yes, there are such jobs). It does not turn me on a little bit. If anything, I find it funny and amusing. So no, I cannot see myself masturbating to porn. I - before being put on an antipsychotic that blocks orgasms from happening - masturbated strictly to my own fantasies, and of those usually fantasies related to actual former or current lovers. I just had a very high level of need, so I masturbated within relationships too, for better or worse. So see, everyone is different.

[wackywidow]

Masturbation is wrong for men or for women regardless if it is in connection with porn. If either sex cannot stop this type of behavior, then they are addicted to it and must work harder at trying to stop it. This behavior can ruin your life. I know. I have been there and have done that. There was a time when masturbation controled me because I could not control it and it drove me away from some possible wholesome relationships with others, both male and female. Now that I have left that part of my life behind me, I have grown in my own personal, self-respect. The temptations are still there buut it has become much easier to say "No" to them ans walk away.

[StrawberryFieldsss]

I think that porn is destructive, both to the people that make it and the people that watch it. Thats just my personal opinion, not meant to shame you. Its your life, you choose what you do with it.

Although I'm a Christian, I'm on the fence about masturbation. Your body needs that release and when I havent masturbated I've had orgasms in my sleep. The idea that God gave us this urge and then expects us to completely deny it makes me sad. Its almost like a form of torture to expect that. So I masturbate, but I dont need or use porn. Ive watched it, and I'm like "whatever. thats weird" BUT thats just me OP. I have no interest in it.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by wackywidow

Masturbation...If either sex cannot stop this type of behavior, then they are addicted to it

It seems to be parallel to saying that if you are hungry outside of a "proper" mealtime and cannot stop yourself from eating, you are addicted to food. You are not addicted - you are hungry. You satisfy your hunger and can go on thinking of others things on this Earth, being productive, creative, inventive, useful to society, what have you.

Plus, it is beautiful. Do not get me wrong, I do not do it - I can't, have not been able to for near three years due to meds, but I remember it to be beautiful. Sex is beautiful in fantasy as much as it is beautiful in reality.

[Perna]

If you want to stop but cannot, then you have a problem? Does not matter what the substance/action is. Sexual release is a tension/anxiety buster and it could be that you are using this method to avoid feeling lonely or stressed by other life problems. I would work on dating/finding a partner and interacting with other people if that concerns you. Going toward what is difficult rather than "running away" is usually more helpful for finding personal happiness, at least for me.

[LostAngel0616]

Originally Posted by char76

Is it normal for females to watch porn online? I don't know if I am addicted or not, but I usually watch some every day. And yes, I always masturbate. I am single and don't think I am hurting anyone. But I never hear about females doing this, it is always men that I hear about. Any other females out there have this issue? I want to stop; I don't want to be addicted; but without a partner, what am I supposed to do?

I'm not sur if its normal or not, but your not alone! I'm also a female and I love porn. And yes, I masturbate to it, too.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by StrawberryFieldsss

I think that porn is destructive, both to the people that make it and the people that watch it. Thats just my personal opinion, not meant to shame you. Its your life, you choose what you do with it.

Although I'm a Christian, I'm on the fence about masturbation. Your body needs that release and when I havent masturbated I've had orgasms in my sleep. The idea that God gave us this urge and then expects us to completely deny it makes me sad. Its almost like a form of torture to expect that. So I masturbate, but I dont need or use porn. Ive watched it, and I'm like "whatever. thats weird" BUT thats just me OP. I have no interest in it.

If I were a Christian, the bolded part would have been enough to convince me that masturbation is OK and in fact meant to be, since Christ preached love and forgiveness, not torture.

Regarding not needing porn for masturbation, I viewed it as a gift. It is like I could fly on my own whereas some others needed a contraption - an airplane. But I am sure those on the airplane would tell me that I am missing out on a whole world of its own.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by ponder1973

Secondly, common behavior is not always "normal" behavior.

I guess food is a good example: eating highly processed foods is common in America, but it is far from normal for humans. To me, though, masturbation is more akin to unprocessed foods than to processed foods in that it is centuries-old and comes with a package of being human. I do see how someone might not be able to handle lust though, using your analogy with alcoholics, and do appreciate that there might be too much of a good thing, so to speak.

[StrawberryFieldsss]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

If I were a Christian, the bolded part would have been enough to convince me that masturbation is OK and in fact meant to be, since Christ preached love and forgiveness, not torture..

Meh, its a personal decision. Its not all that Christ preached either.

[Big Mama]

I to like to watch female friendly porn. My phy. meds killed my sex drive so I simply view for pleasure. People who love each other (acting I know) & take care of one anothers needs. Isn't that what sex is all about any way. I view it alone sometimes and with my husband sometimes. He's thrilled ofcourse. But it opens great lines of communication. We both have only had sex with one other person prier to marriage. (18 years now) So with limited experience this is a good rescource if used carefully. I have been in an abusive relationship and it is interesting to see what sex really is. A give and take not a border line crime. It makes me feel better to see that sex is o.k. and it can be enjoyable. (If the meds had not killed my sexdrive)

[shi man]

i think that females are no dif from men if you like porn and masturbate nothing rong with that you are single you should not feal bad and dont let eney one tell you otherwise

[Bipolar1Disorder]

Originally Posted by char76

Is it normal for females to watch porn online? I don't know if I am addicted or not, but I usually watch some every day. And yes, I always masturbate. I am single and don't think I am hurting anyone. But I never hear about females doing this, it is always men that I hear about. Any other females out there have this issue? I want to stop; I don't want to be addicted; but without a partner, what am I supposed to do?

Well it is in the porn industry. And now we have this new thing about web prostitutes. You know the girls that charge guys to watch them masturbate and get nude etc. on the internet. There are tons of those sites now. From a guys point of view, I see these girls as no different then a common prostitute since they both charge money for their services. But if I may add as my personal experience, it would seem normal to me if a girl I was with was doing it while watching porn.

[Big Mama]

I am a female who likes to watch porn. It is interesting to see that sex can be an enjoyable thing. My H and I both were only with one person before we got married so our experience with sex is not that great. We watch together. I can say hey I think I would like that or don't you ever do that. The occasional you know it really does work that way is also helpful. My H tells me the same things.

My phy.meds killed my sex life. Now who cares. It's like watching soaps but the people for got there clothes and instead of knowing what they are doing with out seeing it, now you get to see it. Yep. soap opera's minus the clothes.

[TheWell]

I'm female, I watch porn, I enjoy porn and I materbate to porn. No problem, no guilt. I wouldn't watch underage porn or illegal material. Masterbating is the best way to learn your own body. Enjoy

[worktowardprogress]

Well, I'm female and watch online porn and masturbate. I don't see anything wrong with it. The addiction thing though, I have noticed that my 'use' increases when I'm anxious or mentally not very stable. There has been times previously when it's become compulsive.

I guess the most important thing is why we're watching and what purpose it serves. If it's keeping you from healthy normal activities then I would say it's a problem (like, if someone asks you to go out in the evening and you decline because you want to be at home watching porn and masturbating).

I've been at that stage and it was an addiction, I was using it at that time to counter extreme anxiety. Like all numbing methods (eg alcohol etc) porn has the capacity to do damage. But if you're just doing it because you like it (I mean, lets be honest adults, orgasm does feel good) then I don't see the problem.

[Emptty]

Masturbating to porn once a day doesn't seem like 'a lot'. Does it interfere with your life? Are you compulsive about when you watch and are there any rituals you follow?

If it feels out of hand, like it's an interference or even if it feels 'not right' then maybe theirs a problem. Try stopping for a week, if you can't do that then there might be a possibility of future problems.

I used to watch porn now and then, then I watched it every day and masturbated every day, then sometimes twice a day then I would obsess over it and it turned into like six times a day and I couldn't stop. For awhile I was constantly turned on... sex and masturbation just didn't relieve me. Approach porn carefully, no way to know if you're the type to get hooked.

[Shishkeberry]

I'm female and I masturbate. I also think that most porn is damaging to those that make it and watch it, however. I prefer erotic stories.

I second Shishkeberry's response. Literotica is my preferred mode of arousal while I masturbate... But just like with anything else, we are all different. We are all individuals. What is one person's addiction is another person's controllable indulgence. What is one person's immoral is another person's happiness. Don't let anyone else determine what is wrong or right for you -- If you feel personally uncomfortable, do something about it. But if not, don't worry too much!

[Girl_Interrupted]

Originally Posted by wackywidow

Masturbation is wrong for men or for women regardless if it is in connection with porn. If either sex cannot stop this type of behavior, then they are addicted to it and must work harder at trying to stop it. This behavior can ruin your life. I know. I have been there and have done that. There was a time when masturbation controled me because I could not control it and it drove me away from some possible wholesome relationships with others, both male and female. Now that I have left that part of my life behind me, I have grown in my own personal, self-respect. The temptations are still there buut it has become much easier to say "No" to them ans walk away.

What are you on about? Masturbation is HEALTHY and NORMAL! There is nothing wrong with it.

There's nothing wrong with you watching porn either. It's just the same as recording you and a partner on a sex tape and watching it back, except it's just another couple, or whatever it is you like to watch.

Porn can be desensitising though, as I can speak from experience. I've deleted all my porn bookmarks on my web browser, and I haven't watched porn in about 3 weeks now. I try to just masturbate by my own imagination, but it's hard.

[hamster-bamster]

Some people are aroused by text and imagination that comes with text, some by more "in your face" visual imagery. Let us not go on the route of putting one on top of the other. They are equally acceptable.

Some people learn better aurally, some people visually, some people kinesthetically... The same would go for how we become aroused, right? While I feel bad for some of the abuses of the sex industry, that's just what some people enjoy.