High sex drive

Hi all,

So I don't think I'm a sex addict, but I have a high drive.

In my last relationship I needed to have sex at least once a week, but 2 or 3 was preferable.

Now I have been without sex for over 4 months. I have considered hooking up with someone online if I could find anyone. It feels dangerous though I guess.

I just am frusterated because I need some physical connection with someone.

Any way to kind of get over this and just be okay without sex for a while? No idea when it'll happen again. Went 2 years without it once and went so crazy when it came again. Haha.

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I am single and have a high sex drive but I manage it through regular sessions of sexual release aka masturbation. It's not the same thing as the acutal physical closeness of sex, but it's the next best thing and it keeps me from climaxing in my sleep, which can be embarassing when I'm sleeping near other people, like on vacation with the family or something.

I can relate to high sex drive and feeling frustrated. It's gotten less intense as I've aged but that's sad in another way. I don't recommend aging

Strangely I did volunteer as a "distraction" to my emotional problems generally and found it helped me cope with lack of sex.

Working with people who are challenging to you...whether that be troubled kids, elderly, minority, parolees, whoever. The level of attention and mental discipline that it requires to help those whom you may otherwise be inclined to dislike can reduce sex drive.

And in my case it taught me about myself.

Thanks everyone.

My life isn't so busy right now, but it's going to pick up.

It's hard though because I think sex is one of the best things about life. I don't know if it's bad to say, but it's probably pretty normal...especially since I'm a young adult (21) and a college student. The other one is probably partying at clubs and drinking hahah. It's probably a problem I don't have much fun any other way...except some small get together's with friends from time to time.

The next best thing is to be engaged in some daily activities, and please don't stick to any other sexual act, including masturbation, you'll be as addicted to it as normal physical sex, to the point of just wanting to climax, not to enjoy the sexual pleasure, which negatively affects your physical sex with your partner.

There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It's a safe and healthy expresion of sexuality. To say that it's wrong is just shaming unecessarily.

I'm sorry, I'm just speaking at this point. You can take what I say or leave it. No hard feelings. Sorry again.

Just so long as you stop shaming a completely normal and healthy expression of sexuality. In fact, a woman needs to explore themselves and discover the most successful ways of feeling sastisfied so that they can tell their partner how to deeply please them and thus strengthen their bond. To shame masturbation is nothing short of sexual oppression in women.

Again I'll say it, so sorry, totally mean it.

It's fine. Just sick of the needless sexual oppression of women is all. We are sensual beings and need to realize that. Self loving is the key to better and more satisfying sex. We need to embrace our sexual selfs. Not shame and oppress them.

I was simply encouraging her to have actual sex with someone she really likes. And men are also sensual beings, EVERY being, it's just how everybody hides it well, yes females are more sensual, but so are men, I am sensual, as far as I know. Again, sorry if this was offensive, I was trying to help.

Everyone here has given good advice. Self exploration is a good way for sexual relief and gratification in times where you aren't physical with someone else, but it would be wise to incorporate other activities as well so that your life isnt solely centered around your sex drive. A good healthly balance between self care and "self care"

Thanks everyone.

Based on last experience, if I self-pleasure I usually end up wanting someone even mores. I haven't in over a month because of that. Any way to maybe get around that? Cause sometimes I want to but I just stop myself from doing it.

Do you think exercise could help curb the desire maybe?

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I wouldn't think that wanting sex a couple times a week when you are in a relationship is really a high sex drive.....that seems to be a pretty normal interest in sex with someone you like.

Being 21 and not having sex for 4 months, I would think having some urges would be pretty normal.

You might be worrying about something that isn't much of an issue.

Obviously, hooking up with someone you don't know from the internet has it's dangers.

Hey, don't knock masturbation! It's sex with someone I love.
Was hesitant to quote Woody Allen on a sex addiction thread

I needed sex once or twice a day and my wife had her best friend to move in and live with us for 40 years because of my high sex drive. Got to love my wife for doing that and never getting jealous. Once a week is not a high sex drive. It is less than most old couples have.

The real problem is that you do not seem able to meet women. All too often, men these days spend too much time behind a keyboard hoping to meet someone instead of putting themselves out there and facing rejection but keep on trying. I was a geek but always had a girlfriend since the age of 14. Sometimes two at a time. Why? because I did something about my high sex drive and asked enough girls until I found one.

Take a look at why you are unable to meet girls and be realistic. Your answer may lay there. Online can work. Several of our friends met and married people they met online. If that is more comfortable for you rather than meeting women in person, then go for it. However, from what my male friends tell me, many of the women they met wanted sex on the first date because they too have had a long dry spell.