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Old Aug 17, 2010, 10:53 PM
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I feel very confused about some sexual fantasy i have toward someone. I am a female. I fantasize having sex with this lady who is the school librarian. She is very pretty and attractive. I also fantasize what would she look like naked. The fantasy confused me and make me feel very guilty, ashamed and confused inside. I feel wrong for having those fantasy. I never want to have sex with a woman but i can't get those fantasy off my mind. It is very intruding. I don't know what to do. Is it mean i am a lesbian? I sometime just want to hold her, to have her to nurture me, to protect me, to hold me.
I feel all alone inside.

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Old Aug 19, 2010, 04:01 AM
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It is quite common, especially for woman, to fantasize about other woman.
I used to read erotic stories about woman on women, and these turned me on the most (And I am in a 5 year relationship with a man currently). Also, porn showing 2 women is what does it the most for me.
I met a woman at work and there was something that attracted me to her. We became great friends, and for about 6 months that's what it was - a friendship. I did however want to be in her presence 24/7. Then one night when we went out, we were dared to kiss. And that set off such emotions that we couldn't keep our hands off each other. As I was still with my bf at the time, it started out as an affair, then I broke up with my bf and we had a relationship. It ended on a rocky note. I've since gone back to my boyfriend, and he knows the story.
I've never since been with another woman (Kissed one other to try work out if this was what I wanted, but - no) No other woman has ever done anything for me. It was the chemisty between us. I'll never consider myself being with another woman, it was just this one. Like one of us was trapped in female body, and if that person had been a male, the relationship would have been prefectly sociably acceptable (Both of us were a bit nervous about social stigma)
Anyway, I don't consider myself a lesbian, even strictly bisexual, I have a problem with that title.
I believe it was the right chemistry, the right emotions... and it was with one person - I cannot see myself ever having that again

Koala - don't feel bad or guilty. Look into your feelings and emotions. Whey not try work on a friendship with this other woman and you will soon enough realise if it is just a friendship, or if there is so much chemistry that you are kind of destined to be together.
I know the confusion of feelign like there is a chance of you being into woman, but just know that there's nothing wrong with that!
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Old Sep 03, 2010, 10:48 PM
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