want to date, not ready?

i am the one who made the attempt about a month ago. I am in therapy, i am taking things as slow as i dare, but in the back of my mind, i am lonely. I have 2 different lesbian groups; a coffee group, and a book club. The lesbians in both groups joined for all different reasons, not just to hook up. I am not sure i am ready to meet new people but feel the need to. Feedback?

Are you looking for friends or for a relationship? Are you missing companionship or sexual gratification?

For me I find sex toys a good substitute for sex. And when I am done with them I can toss them in the closet and I don't have them asking me to make them a sammich.

I seem to be offering everybody cats tonight but I find petting my cats' soft fur soothing. I have two kittens ready to go. Old cats, young cats, cats of all colors. Besides everybody needs a little *****.

Well I'll be darned. I just got auto-edited. So I guess talking about kitties is just too graphic. LOL

lol at yoda! No, i was looking for friends that are also lesbians. I am in no way ready for a relationship. I feel like a shell of my former self, shakey. Know i have a lot to offer as a friend. Maybe it is just the way i am feeling tonight and the awful experience with someone else's crackhead boyfriend. I am greatful i am not the girlfriend because i would be in for a rude awakening when i found out what a freakin liar, thief, and cheat he is...oh wait, she caught him doing all 3 and still she keeps him...okay, i am greatful i have more self estee than she does. As for sex, he was the best ever, but my naughty drawer serves me well. Pet your kitties for me! Love, nucking

Hey. If I don't have the answers at least I can make you laugh, huh?

So if you are looking for casual friends why do you want to limit the choices to lesbians? I don't often disclose it but since this thread seems right - I find that being bisexual offers more options particularly if it turns into a group thing. (Former Wild Thing here) I would like to have some casual friends of either sex but I live very rural and don't get off the farm much. There was a singles group that I went to once and had dinner and then listened to a band but I am kind of sour on that idea because in casual conversation with the group I mentioned the general area where I lived on my farm and when the group finished dinner and went to hear the band there was this total dweeb guy that kept hitting on me and I was trying to be polite but not interested and then when I went to leave he offered to walk me to my car. I said, no thanks, I will be fine. Then one of the other women said let him walk out with you it can be dangerous. I didn't really want to tell them that I had a gun in my purse and I have good aim so I just shut up and he went out with me, asked for my number, I declined. I don't know how many hours he must have spent driving around that week but one day he found my car and knocked on my door. I was stunned. It had never occurred to me that he might want to see what I was driving to find me. I guess I must have had the look of satan in my eyes because I walked out and said, You. Need. To. Leave. Here. Right. Now. Don't. Come. Back. He totally got that I was quite serious and he got in his car pronto and left and that was the last I ever saw of him. Still it spooked me and I was hypervigilant waiting for the nut to come back. Dumb f***. So that kind of poisoned me against going back to the singles group. I have thought of going back because I did enjoy chatting with the women even though the men were slim pickens. I guess I just tell the dweebs to f*** off and forget politeness.

So are you still laughing or have you decided that I am a deranged nut? There isn't an exclusion in this community against the deranged, is there? If so, I guess I should just leave quietly.

still laughing! Believe it or not, dweebs are rare among the lesbian set. The groups were designed to be safe. So if you just want to be among like minded people without some lady hitting on you, it is safe, if there are lesbians that want to hit on you, you gotta let it be known without being obnoxious about it. There is also something about being amoung your own kind.

okay, i rsvped for my lesbian coffee club. Wish me luck. I am not letting any male crackhead and his codependent bank account hold me down! Yeah!!

alarm went off and slept through my coffee club. There is one everyweek. You know, i am actually starting to get excited about these meet ups! I am going back to bed...

The girlfriend decided she might be gay so she decided to join the lesbian coffee club. The woman has a live in boyfriend. People are strange.

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