[scooterboy]

I got PE and am at the end of my tether. Am I alone or can somone help

[bebop]

you don't say if you have any physical illnesses so it is hard to say what might be going on. have you googled it? if not here is a link for you that might help.

https://www.google.com/health/ref/Premature+ejaculation

[scooterboy]

I haven't had many relationships in the past and am wondering if this has anything to do with it. I do get stressed thinking about it as I feel so embarrassed. I've looked on the net but got even more confused with all the different advice out there, plus most of these sites just want to sell me stuff.

[bebop]

not sure how old you are but I think alot of it is practice to control. I am married to a man that goes pretty quickly too once intercourse starts.

[Maven]

I don't believe in premature ejaculation. It's not as if you shoot out semen before you orgasm; when you come, you come. You want to last longer, and that's fine, but it's not a medical condition, no matter what ad companies want you to believe.

If you're quite young, it's especially understandable to not last long, but there are things you can do. You can concentrate on making her orgasm first; there's a book that Dr. Sue Johanson (she's no longer on the air, but you can get info from her show at http://www.talksexwithsue.com/) would recommend, SHE COMES FIRST. I forget the author, but if you can get a copy, it might be helpful to you.

[crystalrose]

yeah i agree, premature ejaculation is not a real med prob. if u are younger or less experienced you will always cum quickly. Ur prob too sensitivite down there. With practice you will last longer. If u are experienced then prob talk to a therapist about it.

[lynn P.]

I would agree with what some of the other posters said about pleasing your partner first in other ways, that way she won't mind if you don't last too long. If you squeeze(with your fingers) at the base of your penis and stop moving for about 30 seconds this might help. You can also practice this during your own self pleasuring times, so you get the knack of it. Try not to worry too much about it because this makes PE worse.

[Michah]

I understand that it is not a med conditiong per se......but it may be beneficial to get your prostate checked or any other causes that may be pressing on the vas deferens to inhibit flow or increase flow......if it is really effecting your life, and making you miserable, please talk to your doc about it......it is the only way you can make an informed decision on how to deal with it.....

Take good care......and try and not be too hard on your self

Hugs,

Michah

[scooterboy]

Thanks for the advice. I'm finding that foreplay helps me to relax but that distraction doesn't help after this. Any other tips for the short term whilst I build up the courage to see my doc

[Maven]

If you can, try to distract your mind when you feel you're getting too close too fast. Think of sports or finances or something that doesn't turn you on, go slower or change your motion to something less stimulating.

[Rhapsody]

I sent you a link to a premature ejaculation exercise..... check your mail.

[lynn P.]

I agree - there are male kegal exercises for men too.

[scooterboy]

Thanks for that, will keep you posted with how things go. (not too much detail though...LOL)