[Gemini69x]

THIS POST NEEDS TRIGGER BUT HAVENT FIGURED OUT HOW ON PHONE SO PLZ BE AWARE THIS INVOLVES SEX AND SEX ABUSE THANKS ok im A surviver of sexual abuse at the hands of my father. there are things that I never noticed were problems til I got in my later twenties. I was always able to pull my body separate from my feelings, as A survival tactic! now that im almost thirty I struggle with being able to enjoy and let go during sex. I dont have problem having sex but when it comes to being able to have A climax it is nearly impossible for me. I dont understand why, is this A mental block that I can work through or has it been A way of life to long to change. plz some one help me

[Rhapsody]

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse I do feel as though what you are dealing with is a mental block and counseling would defiantly be of help to you.....

[Shoe]

Have you ever tried mindfulness meditation? It helps you to focus on the present moment and your sensations instead of getting lost in the narrative self or the thought stream of the past and future. I am reading a really good book right now for the 2nd time entitled The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion by Christopher K. Germer. This book teaches mindful meditation and also Metta or loving kindness meditation. It is not a quick fix but slowly over time you start to retrain your mind/brain. Anyway, I highly recommend that book and it was pretty cheap at amazon. Hope that this helps. Don't give up, Rome wasn't built in a day. ~ Shoe

Originally Posted by Gemini69x

THIS POST NEEDS TRIGGER BUT HAVENT FIGURED OUT HOW ON PHONE SO PLZ BE AWARE THIS INVOLVES SEX AND SEX ABUSE THANKS ok im A surviver of sexual abuse at the hands of my father. there are things that I never noticed were problems til I got in my later twenties. I was always able to pull my body separate from my feelings, as A survival tactic! now that im almost thirty I struggle with being able to enjoy and let go during sex. I dont have problem having sex but when it comes to being able to have A climax it is nearly impossible for me. I dont understand why, is this A mental block that I can work through or has it been A way of life to long to change. plz some one help me