[BrokenNBeautiful]

I posted on here a while ago about a fantasy I have about Commander Data from Star Trek, TNG.

I always feel so guilty about my sexual fantasies.

My husband is very much like Data, even though of course he's a human. His appearance is very much like Data's---dark slicked-back hair, but very soft and fluffy. Even Data's hair looks soft. His skin is very pale; he has albino features, very pale almost whitish-tan eyes. He is also Data's size. In more ways than one.

So I feel guilty about making love with him; last night I finally let him do something foreplay to me, even though I still wasnt' ready to do intercourse. And I woke up this morning, remembering and felt so dirty and bad and guilty.

My husband also understands that when we make love, I like to pretend he's Data. He gets a kick out of that!

So he plays the part.

I love it.

He is the best.

and our sex is wonderful when we can have it.

But the guilt never goes away afterward and when bad things happen to me, I still blame myself for having sex or the fantasies.

Billi

[Mike_J]

You have no reason to feel guilty. Your husband is supportive, nobody is being hurt, we all have fantasies, and hate to disappoint you but yours is well within the “normal” range.

You have fantasies, only means your human, with a generally normal sexual desires.

You enjoy it, your husband “gets a kick out of it”

You are in a “Win-Win” situation, you shouldn’t feel bad, you should just enjoy the blessings you have.

There is absolutely nothing wrong or dirty with what you are thinking or doing.

If you are in therapy I would suggest talking to him/her about this.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

thanks.

I can't afford therapy.

Sometimes I consult someone online.

B.

[Rachie]

I agree its totally normal! Enjoy it! Dont feel guilty you're doing nothing wrong :-) be greatful that you and your husband have a great sex life. Wishing you the best and I hope you get over your guilt

[Yoda]

Fantasies are healthy. Enjoy!!

[Perna]

I would try to reframe the guilt as excitement? Sometimes when I'm anxious I do that, just consciously "decide" that I'm excited instead and looking forward to something. Think about it; roller coasters and horror movies are "scary" but not like "real" experiences because we know they're safe. Go ahead and decide that you have your husband AND Data! You're a lucky girl, two guys (even if one is an android and not real :-) Let it magnify your sense of eroticism rather than steal from it?

[Rhapsody]

If its not interfering in your relationship and the sex is good and your husband doesnt mind then I say - - - - - > GO FOR IT!!

[BrokenNBeautiful]

If anyone wants to join my Data fan yahoo group, please pm me.

I need members (female 18 and up).

ty for your support h ere.

Billi

[Choochie24]

Sexual fantasies are very good for a relationship when both partners come to the party.

You are an incredibly lucky women to have your husband not only agree to but also get a kick out of playing this part. Not many men are that brave.

Id say kick back and relax, as long as your husband is aware of what's going on in your head there's nothing to feel bad about.