Am I bisexual?

Up until the age of 13 I had always thought I was purely interested in men. HOwever, at the age of 13 I began to have fantasies about other women as well. However, these only occured in dreams and sexually aroused fantasies. I was disgusted by the idea at any other time.

However, as time has progressed, I find myself MORE and MORE interested in women, as well as men. I haven't done anything with another women ut I am EXTREMELY curious. I find women attractive and would like to explore sexually with them.

Should I wait and be sure how I feel before entering into anything sexual? Or should I try something sexual to be sure...

I am SO confused...

I think people who are confused about their sexuality can sometimes feel a lot of pressure to pigeon-hole themselves in a specific category. People see your sex as male or female (ignoring intersex and gender identity disorder); and sexuality as straight, gay, or bi, ignoring all the 'in between' space on, say, the Kinsey Scale. And things like preferences and other sexual interests don't get classified this way at all, although they might be more meaningful for some than sexual orientation (like fetishes).

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that, despite whatever label there is attached to it, you are what you are. Accepting yourself and your feelings, no matter what their implications might be or how ambiguous they are at the time, is often a more productive focus than trying to figure out if you're straight or bi. You may find out that you do like both sexes a lot, or that you may have some minor feelings for women but still prefer men sexually. Either way is fine, so long as it's what you really feel.

I can understand that you might want more answers and to understand yourself better though, and this isn't wrong either. I don't think I can fully answer this question for you but for me, personally, having sex to figure out my sexuality would have been wrong. Sex is a very intimate act and is a major bonding experience for me. I can't just engage in casual sex, and experience no repercussions. Thus, to have sex with a random woman (a.) might not have worked well as a test because there was no emotional connection and (b.) would have actually been an act of self-harm. And if you enter into a relationship with a woman under false pretenses, and find out you're not really interested in her sexually after committing the act, you could very well be causing her emotional damage. In these circumstances, I think it's often better to just leave yourself open to possibility, and take things as they come if you start developing real feelings for someone. Don't force those feelings on someone they might not be right for - gender is only one aspect of compatibility.

I myself am bisexual, and when I was younger I did have some major feelings of confusion regarding the issue. However, a lot of it was because I did not want to accept the attractions I was experiencing. I would not have called myself prejudiced, but looking back on it, I think I was in a way. A lot of my confusion cleared up when I discovered the true cause of it wasn't in my sexuality, but the way I perceived that sexuality. Perhaps a similar form of introspection on the subject could be helpful for you?

Sorry, I know I'm all over the map here. It's just a complicated subject, and I don't think anyone can really answer it for you. 'Cause that answer lies within you.
If you want a short answer to your question:
If you don't normally and/or easily engage in casual sex acts, I would definitely not advise using sex at this point to try to determine your sexuality. The information you get from this might just confuse you more anyways. (Say, if you didn't like sex with her but might like it with another girl.) So it can't tell you anything for sure and is risky.

You sound just like I used to lol
First off, I am bi. Hopefully I can answer this helpfully because its actually been pretty recent that I figured that out.
I thought I was only interested in men until 8th grade. I was 13 (I'm 17 now) and liked my best friend(a girl). Yeah that was a strange year...lol

I know this isn't what you want to hear but don't put too much pressure on trying to label yourself as bi, gay, straight, or anything else. That will just stress you out and make you more confused. Just try to be patient, you'll figure it out.

Now to actually answer your question. (lol sorry, I'm being random today)
I can't tell you if you are or aren't bi, only you can know that. But, you said you like men and women, so maybe you are.
You don't have to do anything sexual with anyone to know if you like men and/or women. You may have heard "well how do you know youre gay or bi if you havent?" No one ever asks "well how do you know you're straight?" It's exactly the same. You just know. So basically just don't worry about it too much, you'll figure it out. And whatever you are (gay, bi, straight, etc.) don't be ashamed of it!
Just be yourself. Good luck.

How old are you now?

I COMPLETELY agree with what Araya said!! Try not to feel too stressed about "defining" yourself--as you learn, grow, and go through your life, your sexuality will eventually settle itself out as you explore who and what you are. You don't have to be in a relationship with a woman to feel very strongly that you are attracted to women, just as you don't have to be in a relationship with a man to feel that you are attracted to men.

It's certainly something to read up on and explore within yourself if you are trying to figure yourself out, but the big thing to remember is this: DON'T WORRY! Everybody goes through a period (and sometimes several periods!) where they are learning about and defining their own sexuality. This journey is your own, and should be taken at YOUR pace, nobody else's.

Someone once asked this question and the best answer I ever heard was that maybe this is something that you may want to discuss with your t. Myself I am a lesbian and really like women...the sex is just the frosting on the cake. I like the way women think and carry themselves. The emotional compatibility is so important to me. Good luck on your journey of discovery...enjoy!