[shezbut]

This may be triggering to those with SA history....


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I've noticed a pattern I keep finding myself in, and don't know how to turn it around. I've been in a romantic relationship, since divorce, for one year now. We are both very attracted to one another, but something is interfering.

My bf is paraplegic. So, his enjoyment is dependent upon my enjoyment. He has great patience and a lot of different techniques to bring me to orgasm, but I'm having a heck of a time reaching it for the past several weeks. This stresses me out, because I historically have a pattern of dissociating to please men. When the focus is on ME, I just can't reach orgasm. The result is neither one of us being pleased, despite our desire for one another.

I have strong desires and so does he. We are emotionally committed to one another. Lots of lust. What's the problem and how do I turn it around again??

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by shezbut

This may be triggering to those with SA history....


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I've noticed a pattern I keep finding myself in, and don't know how to turn it around. I've been in a romantic relationship, since divorce, for one year now. We are both very attracted to one another, but something is interfering.

My bf is paraplegic. So, his enjoyment is dependent upon my enjoyment. He has great patience and a lot of different techniques to bring me to orgasm, but I'm having a heck of a time reaching it for the past several weeks. This stresses me out, because I historically have a pattern of dissociating to please men. When the focus is on ME, I just can't reach orgasm. The result is neither one of us being pleased, despite our desire for one another.

I have strong desires and so does he. We are emotionally committed to one another. Lots of lust. What's the problem and how do I turn it around again??

Try this:

1. Click on "Disorders and Conditions" in the brown horizontal line near the top of this page.

2. Scroll down the left-hand column until you get to "Sexual Disorders."

3. Find "Female Sexual Arousal Disorders" under "Sexual Disorders" and click on it.

4. Again on the left side, find "Ask a Question" under which you will find two choices: "Ask the Therapist" and "Ask Others."

4a. First, click on "Ask the Therapist" and enter your question, doing whatever they ask you to do in order to process your question.

4b. Same on "Ask Others."

5. Go back to the page where you found "Ask a Question."

5a. Scroll down to "Other Resources" and click on it.

5b. Scroll down to "Sexuality and Gender Resources" and click on it, doing whatever they instruct you to do to find the resources that look likeliest to produce material you will find about your issue.

At the moment, that's all I can suggest. I do wish you and your loved one success at this tough moment in your relationship.

Take care!

[still standing]

Originally Posted by shezbut

This may be triggering to those with SA history....


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I've noticed a pattern I keep finding myself in, and don't know how to turn it around. I've been in a romantic relationship, since divorce, for one year now. We are both very attracted to one another, but something is interfering.

My bf is paraplegic. So, his enjoyment is dependent upon my enjoyment. He has great patience and a lot of different techniques to bring me to orgasm, but I'm having a heck of a time reaching it for the past several weeks. This stresses me out, because I historically have a pattern of dissociating to please men. When the focus is on ME, I just can't reach orgasm. The result is neither one of us being pleased, despite our desire for one another.

I have strong desires and so does he. We are emotionally committed to one another. Lots of lust. What's the problem and how do I turn it around again??

Well my username is still satanding you have an emotional bond with him but how do u leave someone you love. Find it dig deep to find strength to move on look how its affecting you be strong