Slowing Down Ejaculation

I most recently started dating again and I have a problem with ejaculating too fast. I concentrate so much on the little guy that he just can't wait. It usually lasts about 5 minutes after penetration if I'm lucky. I don't want to be some super sex thing that lasts for an hour , but I want to please my partner.
I know there are drugs like Viagra and Cialis but I was wondering if there was any tips in slowing in down.

cum before sex, after you do that it will take longer to cum again

I added a trigger icon just because some might find it too explicit - but to me it's just medical.


Congratulations on meeting this lady. The first bit of advice I want to give you is, don't get worked up about it. Anxiety is the biggest enemy with this issue. You may even want to confide in your partner since she can help you with a few tricks. The first poster is correct, you could masturbate before you meet up with her.

There's another exercise and this focuses on 'delaying ejaculation' by using the squeeze method. I'll give you a website later. You can practice this technique when you're by yourself also -every time you feel it coming you stop and squeeze. A woman wouldn't mind if you do this for a few seconds during sex. You could also try a 'penis ring'.

Another thing you can do are 'Kegal Exercises' - yes there are kegals for men and not just woman lol. You might be wondering "well how do I do that"? When you're going pee, stop the flow of urine - 'this' is the muscle you want to strengthen. Of course you don't do this while going pee - I'm just identifying the muscle action. Do these squeeze exercises(set of 12, increasing) several times a day whenever you want - the nice thing with this exercise is, you can do it anywhere and no one would know lol. If you do it when you're erect, it will move up and down. This exercise will help you have better control.

Most of all you want to go easy on yourself. If it happens it's no big deal -don't get discouraged. It would even be a good idea to engage in many acts of foreplay, that way if it does end up being short, she won't even be concerned. While in the act try not to think about it - if you think too much it will happen. If you feel it coming stop moving and use the squeeze method, wait a few seconds...then start up again. Practice this at home by yourself and your partner can also practice it with you when she's touching you. If you have a nice woman, she will be understanding and this will make you feel relaxed. Best of luck to both of you.

*I know your situation isn't exactly considered PE but this site has good information:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pre...ents-and-drugs

Thanks Lynn , I appreciate this so much . I guess it takes practice and I haven't been with a woman for many years and the same thing happened then , and sometimes I think that's why she left me , but I could be wrong. If she did , she wasn't worth it anyway , right. I have no problems with kissing and touching they really enjoy that . lol . It's just penetration that does it for me. I was reading on one site to try and think about something else while you are doing it , and another site said just the opposite , that it would just make it worse. I guess the best thing would be to be up front with her and tell her my situation . Hopefully it won't happen with some of your tips. Thanks again Lynn . Hugs

You're welcome. I agree - if the woman left you for this reason, then she's not worth worrying about and good riddens to her. I think, at least this is my opinion - most men think this matters a lot to women but I don't think it does. If it did happen before penetration or in the 1st few seconds - then I suppose that would be disappointing, but the man can still please the woman.

One thing I know is it's better not to stress or feel embarrassed. I think it's better to be upfront - that way your partner can help you. Here's a website that talks about the 'Kegal Exercises' - these exercises are good for other things as well and everyone(men and women) should do them.

http://www.kegelexercisesformen.com/

So here I am worrying about ejaculating too slowly and it took about 40 minutes . We had to have a rest in between , not young anymore.
She thought it was her and was very disappointed that she couldn't make me ejaculate. Anyway after about a half hour of unsuccessful attempts , we did it doggie style and that seemed to do the trick , didn't take long then. She said she was really sore after , is that good or bad?

Most women get sore after doing it doggie style, expecally if it was her first time. Once she get's used to it, it wont be as sore afterwards.