Ciao! My name is Stasia/lahlah

Lahlah is short for loveandhope.We wanted to offer the issue we are experiencing for suggestions.We are very new to this forum but not a stranger to forums in general.We have met very nice people here so far.So I thank you for that.
We wonder if any of you have a lover that likes to draw others in.Just one,but,this would not be the first.I am 41 and my lover is rather young yet.She has quite an appetite for playing.We have fulfilled this wish for her before,but she wants a long term add.
The reason I feel reluctant is that we are more than one.Yes,D.I.D We worry that in the long term our others will want to join and a new interest would be slow to bond.Due to us being many.This may cause her an unease.We are most worried about "Josh" as he can become very temperamental.
She is a little bit of a worrier and we would not want her to be hurt with rejection.We wish we could get her to come to here,but she says she has 'no interest'.
We only worry that she will be hurt if the person decides they are not willing to deal with D.I.D. I could take it but she may not be so resilient.We think Josh would jump to her defense if she were hurt.Currently we have a male that sees just my body.She has a female pet that she is enchanted by.This makes us happy because she is a happy cat*laugh* .Anyway suggestions are appreciated.
Stacia