[luxwillow]

I've found ever since I lost my virginity nearly 2 years ago, my sex drive has increased substantially.
Also I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder last year and feel whenever I'm distressed or lonely I engage in impulsive sex.
I've never had any STI/STD's but I think I've slept with about 55 - 60 men, It's getting to be a problem that's come up again.

Can anyone relate?

How have you managed to keep your sexual habits under control?

I hope someone can help you - that's obviously a very dangerous thing you are doing not to mention that it's likely got something to do with your diagnosis. Is the act of sex itself that you are looking to fulfill or the intimacy of being close to another human being?

Do you have a good therapist? And if so are they aware of this issue? I would think this is something that you really need to discuss with a professional and sooner rather than later.

mho....

Love and Peace,
J

[with or without you]

There are a couple STD's that don't show symptoms...chlamydia being one of them...if it goes untreated, you're in for a disappointment if you want to have children because it can damage your uterus. Have you been tested? Good luck to you.

[mgran]

When I had hyper sexual issues I was in a relationship, and I was very demanding. There were times when I'd get into a crying jag, because I thought I'd go mad or burst out bonkers if I didn't have sex. You can imagine how unusual it is for a man to say, "not tonight, I have a headache!"

I'm sorry to say this (I know it's terribly crude) but on those occasions where I thought I'd die if I didn't have sex right then and there, the only thing I could do was ... well... wank. Sometimes it would be five or seven times a day... very occasionally even more: I'd lock myself into the bathroom, lie down and not come out for several hours, by which time I'd be exhausted and in a lot of pain, but at least it was out of my system. Not ideal, but I've been able to limit my sexual partners to three (that's including a rapist.)

Without meaning to trigger anything, have you thought of creative wanking instead?

[Evening]

I have a cousin who has BPD, and she is extremely sexual as well. There are so many risks to these sexual encounters. My cousin lost her virginity at 16 to a guy who treated her like crap (and who is now her future step brother), she slept with his best friend at a party a few hours after they had one of their many fights and break ups. She's been pregnant but it aborted because of her medications, she has had as we call (excuse me for swearing) f*** buddies, and had sex with guys before they became her boyfriend (probably more because they found sexual convenience with her rather than because they liked her), I even came across (accidentally) extremely graphic photos of her having sex with her boyfriend. She talks about sex so graphically it makes me cringe. But she is not overly educated in sex, she thought that by being on the pill she couldn't get pregnant.
And yes, I do think less of her because of her lack of morals. That is in no way directed at you of course. But with being overly sexual does come reputation. Not everyone is going to sympathise with someone and believe that a disorder is going to make someone have sex all the time (as we all know not everybody takes the time and effort to be fully understanding of what you might be suffering from). Then of course there are the risks of pregnancy, disease and abuse. And even if none of the latter are the case, the reputation of it can bring rumours of those things that people may just believe.
If you can, I would talk to someone about way you could lower your, uh, urges so to speak :P, perhaps try the above persons suggestions. If you are one to take meds (I'm not too keen on meds but obviously others do), perhaps there is something that can lower the urges? Perhaps you could try analysing what these sexual urges are about, there may or may not be some things underlying that are increasing it, such as a need to feel wanted or 'intimate', not just sexually, with another person, or unreleased tensions and energy that might build the feeling up even more.

Hopefully that helps a bit.

[Miss Laura]

I am like this when I am manic. I am having a hard time controlling this side of me. I have never had sex and I actually don't want it. But when I am manic and at the far gone stage I can become so sexual and want to have sex with numerous guys..... wanting to meet up with guys I don't even know.

Its a hard situation to be in