[flying brain]

hi i have a twin 21 years old sister and she just recently told my parents and me that she is not sure but she think is gay she tould us this when she was suffering from anxiety something she has suffer since she was around 5 years old .

we were very supportive and let her know is ok and we lover her no matter what sex she finds attractive ,she is going to theraphy right now because of his anxiety but just today my mother told me that when my sister was around 5 years old she would covered his vagina when she shower or change his underwear she did not want to see his vagina my mother take her to a psycologist and she tell to my mom my sister was having identity issues but that she wanted to leave her grown and see how things go .my sister was never like the kids i had watch in tv that say to his mom and dad that they are in the wrong body and dress like a boy or girl depending but i wonder if that feelings have gone or they are in there ?and if any connection between that and my sister thinking she may be gay?

[Elana05]

Hi Flying Brain,

Could be... Maybe she is also still trying to figure it out. Sometimes the best we can do is listen. It sounds like your family is doing a good job of that.

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Originally Posted by flying brain

hi i have a twin 21 years old sister and she just recently told my parents and me that she is not sure but she think is gay she tould us this when she was suffering from anxiety something she has suffer since she was around 5 years old .

we were very supportive and let her know is ok and we lover her no matter what sex she finds attractive ,she is going to theraphy right now because of his anxiety but just today my mother told me that when my sister was around 5 years old she would covered his vagina when she shower or change his underwear she did not want to see his vagina my mother take her to a psycologist and she tell to my mom my sister was having identity issues but that she wanted to leave her grown and see how things go .my sister was never like the kids i had watch in tv that say to his mom and dad that they are in the wrong body and dress like a boy or girl depending but i wonder if that feelings have gone or they are in there ?and if any connection between that and my sister thinking she may be gay?

Hi, I'm a little confused by what you are trying to say, it sounds a bit like you are thinking your sister might identify as a boy? Or are you just saying she is attracted to other girls? Those are two different things. Sexual Orientation refers to whom someone is attracted, while Gender Identity refers to what gender someone identifies as (regardless of what physical sex they are).

I am both transgender, as I am happily living my life as a woman now, though I was originally born a guy, and also bisexual, because I am able to be attracted to both men and women. If you want to know more about either situation, feel free to ask me. I'll be happy to clarify anything you want to know about.

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I am having a hard time understanding your question. Are you saying that when your sister was about five she thought she was male? I have twins that are now 18. The older of the two would say he is a girl from the time he could speak. I understand the difference between gender identification and being gay, but I think that was the only way he could verbalize how he felt at that young age. Or perhaps it was how he could explain to his twin that he wanted to wear girl’s clothing and play with dolls. At 18 he no longer thinks that he is female but he is gay.

In my opinion the best thing that you can your family can do is what you are already doing, be supportive and show her that you love her no matter what.

[notz]

There is recent research that validates that the odds of one twin being gay is more than significant.

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Originally Posted by notz

There is recent research that validates that the odds of one twin being gay is more than significant.

I am aware of that there is research out there. The college my daughter graduated from has had an ongoing project with twins for many years. In theory identical twins have the same DNA and nature/nurture so they seem to be the ideal group to study.

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nvm, thought I was replying to a different thread. Should remember to read back for context more often. heh.