[youOme]

After my boyfriend and I of three years has sex I get really depressed and weepy. I feel gross and guilty like I had done something wrong. It was never like this before but we recently had a time period where we fought over sex, and some hurtful things were said about towards each others performances. Not to mention Im heavier then Ive ever been due to having my third baby 10 months ago. I dont know if this will get better and I imagine if it dont our relationship will fall apart quickly. Sex seems more important to me then it does him, or so he claims. I need thoughts and opionons please.

[turquoisesea]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I've had weird reactions to sex with my bf too, and have depression.

Would it be a bad idea to not have sex for a while and then try to start off fresh? it sounds likes there's a lot of bad feelings sitting there. If you were fighting about this why would you feel comfortable at all? I sure wouldn't

[youOme]

Yea we did take a break for awhile, we were kinda use sex against each other, denying each other vindictively. Recently we've been gettin back in the sack and tryin fresh, but its just weird now. I believe its partially the past and partially my own demons with my weight and self esteem. Hes effected my self esteem though. Its a mess... For two very sexual people who once loved gettin it on with each other...miss it

[mria123456]

Go for counseling that may be help you.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by youOme

Sex seems more important to me then it does him.

My problem was that we always made love at night and she was often too tired or stayed up doing work. Also, I was spontaneous and she needed a few hours warning to "prepare herself mentally". I felt disappointed and rejected.

Now we set aside Saturday and Sunday mornings for sex. It doesn't sound very romantic, but it means we're both fresh and ready and it really does work.