[likewater]

Ok, i know what i'd tell somebody else, but i feel incredibly guilty for taking a break from sex. Part of it is, my bfriends ex wife slept in a separate bedroom, wouldnt even hold his hand, criticized his body ( which makes no sense to me ) and had an affair with a married fireman for 6 years. I want to make up for all that and give him oodles of sex, but i'm having flashbacks and not doing so hit right
now. I feel more guilty because i've been able to do a lot of stuff before. I just got triggered by some family stuff going on and im having a hard time functioning in all areas, including sex. I think he thought it was a one time thing. I go to counseling, i get better,
i'm cured. I dont think he realized that it flares up at different times. It's an ongoing thing. I wonder why i' m even in this world if i
can't function and bring him joy. Also, i already haf a lumpectomy and probably have to get another. Then i feel, i'll have even less to
offer bc he really likes that part of my anatomy.

[CantExplain]

If you need to take a break from sex, that's your right.
Also, there's more than one kind of sex. If you don't feel up to intercourse, there are other ways to give him pleasure.

Are you still in therapy? If you are, you might want to raise this with your T. If you aren't, you might want to go back.

[Purple Heart]

If he truly loves you he will wait and help you through your past traumas. Yoiur still a woman even if you lose your boobs.

[likewater]

Thanks, purple heart . This isn't very fun and he doesnt get it. He doesnt know
How serious my health issues are and he doesnt want to know how deeply emotionally damaged i am. I feel left out in this ocean of pain alone. I feel like breaking up with him because i feel so lonely. I just want him to leave me alone because he doesnt get it.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by likewater

Thanks, purple heart . This isn't very fun and he doesnt get it. He doesnt know
How serious my health issues are and he doesnt want to know how deeply emotionally damaged i am. I feel left out in this ocean of pain alone. I feel like breaking up with him because i feel so lonely. I just want him to leave me alone because he doesnt get it.

[likewater]

Ok. Didnt break up. Thanks guys. I dont understand how to make him understand. I love him, but I'm lonely
With him right there because it's like he refuses to see my pain. He wont look it in the eye.

[Purple Heart]

Do you both see a relationship therapist to work out your problems?

[likewater]

No. I see a T. We dont see someone together. Think he has a lot of issues bc took him to my T once and he talked the whole session.
Wasnt to do with us really but how his feelings/hurt from ex wife affect relationship now. Actually, that could be part of what's going
On.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by likewater

No. I see a T. We dont see someone together. Think he has a lot of issues bc took him to my T once and he talked the whole session.
Wasnt to do with us really but how his feelings/hurt from ex wife affect relationship now. Actually, that could be part of what's going
On.

How did you feel about that?
Would you like to do it again?

[likewater]

I dont know. Guess we could. My T already suggested he come sometime. Now i have a different T. Everything is different. Everything seems more difficult. I'm tired. I wish my bfriend would get a T.