Alone

I'm so alone and so tired of everything. One of my many issues is that I am a virgin. Yes a virgin in my 30's! I've never been on a date, no one has ever told me that they loved me and cared about me. The only interest anyone has ever shown in me is someone who wants a friends with benefits type of relationship. Am I that unloveable, what am I doing so wrong? I'm trying so hard, I'm a good person, would do anything for anyone but still I am alone...

Hi Issyme,
I sympathize with you. Please share more details of what the situation is. Where do you go for social interaction? Bars? Church? Clubs? Sports? What about high school experiences?

hi, issyme - in order to go on dates, you have to ask women out. why are you hesitant to do this? sometimes, friends with benefits leads to love. but, you do not seem to want to take the risk. why do you feel unloveable? are you seeing a T? seeing a T is recommended to change the way you perceive yourself. i wish you all the best.

Hi there.

Firstly...I don't think you should take any shame in the fact you are a virgin. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I know that might be a byproduct of never having been on a date, and thus you might not perceive it in a positive light, but I don't think you should shame yourself on that.

Blondboy (in a usual par for the course in his posts ) raises a good point. A lot of meeting someone is having places to meet someone. You need to put yourself out there, and most importantly, try to be yourself. Don't try to put on a front for a woman or seem like you're just "chasing tail," so to speak. Just be genial, be sociable, and above all, be yourself. The rest usually falls into place.

I hope I was of a little help to you. Take care. I wish you my best.