[Aardavak]

Well, where to begin? I've been confronted with this problem for long and had a very,very hard time giving this

practise. Before I begin I wish to mention some successes:
1. I haven't masturbated for 2 months straight
2. I've got control over my emotional life.
3. I'm doing well in studies,my ultimate aim.

How did I do it?? Lets get going people>>>>

1.NO SELF DOUBTS
I've noticed people having guilt or self doubts over masturbation. They find it to be a sin(i'm not a christian)

and have a hard time tackling it. Well let me tell you, IT IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE ASHAMED OF. Whether everyone does

it or not is of no help to a guy like me who used to masturbate everyday. But i realized that it was not something

to curse yourself or feel bad about. Sex drive is natural otherwise we will all be robots. If you enjoy it and

think that you can always control it to desired extent, no need to give it up, you're alright.

2.WHAT IF IT BECOMES TOO MUCH?
However to a guy like me, with very little self control, things were hard and looked bleak at one time.For me,let

me tell you,I never made past a few hours sometime ago.It was frustrating,detrimental to my mental health and in

the end my OCD surfaced(the greatest demon,my family has a history of it)and I was thrown into an abyss with little

hope.My final exams(Boards) were round the bend, and in my country,these exams are the most important. So in all,

IT WAS A NIGHTMARE. My other post about HOCD related queries was a result of my OCD being in control. However I

NVER GAVE UP HOPE! Even when my hocd was in control, i had dropped masturbation. How? First off,I stopped watching

porn. Second I asked my brother/mother to sit in the same room in which I studied. This way I was forced to

concentrate though my heart was in full grip of my fears. I read and kept re-reading only one motivational poem I

liked very much-INVICTUS by William Ernest Henley. It helped me pull through the worst of times. I excersized

regularly in the morning for 1 hour. It was difficlut considering my studies but I needed it.

3.THE PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT
One thing which was a game changer was that I realized that my ****(penis) is not naturally meant to be pleased

this way. It deserves a much better place to be(forgive my humour girls if you find it offensive) than just my

hands and tissue paper. So I realized that masturbation was a precursor to my inhibition in talking and interacting

with women. Hence I went out of my way at school and started talking to girl classmates. it was extremely helpful.

i never mentioned anything private to anyone or discussed my worries but just listened to what they had to say

about random topics. It took my mind off my own worries and made me realize that women are just like boys- human

beings and not things to objectify. Hence it was a learning experince as my respect for them went off the charts

and i even found that to have a girlfriend, you need to win her heart and sitting at home thinking you dont have a

girl is quite worthy of a nice bashing.
Secondly,I found that thinking of becoming someone positive and successful everyday was enough to take me there. I

consciously checked my negative thoughts and replaced them with thoughts like "this thing rather can be thought of

like..." and something positive. I listened to songs everyday though my OCD was a problem here too(dont want to

tell you how as you might get entangled in it if you know about it more) and listened to an hour of music which I

liked everyday. I used to think that i need a psychiatrist and really need to get to him but then I dropped the

thought and started thinking that its better to laugh at your problems when you have them then to think of them to

be too great and serious. i foind them to be extremely laughable!

4.THE REALIZATION POINT PEOPLE
You must have realized the working by now,dont you? DONT BELITTLE YOURSELF!! You are your best friend and know your

best needs and aspirations. Stop thinking of yourself as of no use as some do. Such people also have justifications

for such thoughts as well. THEY ARE TOTALLY WRONG.No one is there to help you if you dont want to be helped. If you

keep thiking you life sucks then it really will because you're trying hard to make it yourself. Stay happy, whem

fearfull, smile to yourself till others ask you why are you smiling. Hang out with happy people,friends,go dance on

the road(I'll join you) but don't sit at home feeling worthless. If you think that you lack will power, take up a

religion.,it helps. I thought of myself to be an atheist but believing in god and his fairytales once can make you

realize that the stregth you derive is powerful. Don't let your mind be your master,seek its reaches,destroy it

(don't hurt yourself physically please) and reclaim your powers like a warrior. Dont argue with yourself too much,

most of the time you would realize you were too misinformed at the time to have fought yourself.

LIVE YOUR LIFE-ITS WORTH IT!!!

SAY thanks to me and send in any worries to my pm if you want to ask anything or ask further,I'll reach out to

you.God blees you ;D

[LiteraryLark]

I love masturbating. I started in 6th grade and was a little freaked out by it in middle school because I felt guilty, but not anymore. It's so reliving to know that I don't need a man to make me happy.