[essexgirl]

Hi there im a young girl from London and i am really
anxious about meeting a boyfriend. I am a virgin and never
had any experience of being with a boy as i'm scared of
having sex. I worry about the touching aspect of sex
and if you can tell me your experiences of sex first time
and in general i would like that.

Basically i feel ugly and hate myself too much. xxx

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by essexgirl

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Hi there im a young girl from London and i am really
anxious about meeting a boyfriend. I am a virgin and never
had any experience of being with a boy as i'm scared of
having sex. I worry about the touching aspect of sex
and if you can tell me your experiences of sex first time
and in general i would like that.

Basically i feel ugly and hate myself too much. xxx

I would just wait until you are ready to have a boyfriend, a boyfriend isn't going to want to deal with a girl with low self-esteem, the kind that does will only play you and break your heart. Wait until you are older, at least in high school...my dad didn't have a girlfriend until he was in college.

I'm 19 and still a virgin...waiting for the right guy.

[CastlesInTheAir]

I waited till I was 21

[CantExplain]

My wife was a virgin at 23.

Hey essexgirl
No need to rush. You're still very young and there's lots of time. Because I'm a guy I don't think it would help to tell you about my first time. I'm not sure you even wanted any responses from the male perspective
Take your time and the right guy will come along once you start getting out more. Just be cautious and make sure it's the right guy. Try not to worry about the sexual part of the relationship. Get to know and trust the guy before you even consider that. There is much more to enjoy about a good relationship than just sex.
I'm sorry someone has made you feel ugly and hate yourself. Get to know yourself and form your own opinion about that. If there are things that you don't like about yourself, then you can try to change those things.
Try to find some things to do that make you like yourself. Usually those things involve learning, or helping others, or something like working with homeless pets.

Originally Posted by essexgirl

Hi there im a young girl from London and i am really
anxious about meeting a boyfriend. I am a virgin and never
had any experience of being with a boy as i'm scared of
having sex. I worry about the touching aspect of sex
and if you can tell me your experiences of sex first time
and in general i would like that.

Basically i feel ugly and hate myself too much. xxx

george h...

you are a good man!

I get this feeling that you may be left handed

Originally Posted by stumpy

george h...

you are a good man!

ah no right handed unless i am missing something here...

No, my mistake. I was thinking left-handed compliment but I just looked up the dictionary definition and that phrase is more derogatory than I realized so my post doesn't make sense
What I meant was you may give me too much credit but it was a very nice thing to say and I thank you

[Lizzie B]

Essex girl,
Please consider waiting until you are ready. I had sex in high school and it was awful. Many of my friends got pregnant I'm lucky I didn't. Most of those women are divorced from their high school sweethearts now.
Take Care.

Originally Posted by essexgirl

Hi there im a young girl from London and i am really
anxious about meeting a boyfriend. I am a virgin and never
had any experience of being with a boy as i'm scared of
having sex. I worry about the touching aspect of sex
and if you can tell me your experiences of sex first time
and in general i would like that.

Basically i feel ugly and hate myself too much. xxx

I live on the outskirts of London and am in the same situation (except I'm a boy) as you.

[Harley47]

There's no rush Essexgirl. You are very young, and you have plenty of time to meet the right man. I would encourage you to wait until you are ready, and find "the one." That will come in time. Until that happens, try not to sweat it. Things will happen naturally.

[Rob1210]

I was 17 and waited a couple of months into a relationship before having sex. There's no rush, trust me. There's plenty of time for intimacy. Don't feel you have to offer it up on a plate just to try and snare a guy. In my opinion, the right guy will respect you so much more for wanting to wait. You'll probably find that if you get to know each other first, most of your inhibitions and fears will disappear and things will just develope naturally

[City_of_Angels]

I would definitely take the advice of the others and wait until you are ready. I lost my virginity at a young age and it has caused me so many psychological issues. Now I'm nearly 23 and still paying for it. My circumstances were a little abnormal, but had I not tried to rush into everything just to feel accepted/ fit in, i'm sure my life would be a lot better.

My sister dated her first boyfriend for 8 months before she felt comfortable losing her virginity and he was happy to wait because he loved her. When I look at both of our lives and how they have been influence by our decisions on when to lose our virginity, hers is a lot better and she is healthier sexually, psycologically and physically...Overall, she is a stronger woman than I could ever dream to be.