[bamapsych]

Im a female and have slept with one person, but its been about 2 years ago. I always preferred to be on bottom, but my boyfriend would want to switch and me be on top. I get little to no pleasure that way. But if im on bottom I cant really move much so its like im not participating/giving. What have your experiences been? It makes me feel guilty to be on the receiving end of having sex, but thats most pleasurable to me so im kind of stuck

[LiteraryLark]

Sex is to please both parties. Switching is not difficult and a healthy part of a relationship, so if it pleases him, I would talk to him how it doesn't please you and ask what part of being on top pleases him. There are more than one position to be on top, and since you are still new to sex, experiment with different positions to find which you like. It could just be you don't like to be on top with him, you may feel differently with other men.

[Harley47]

Doc gave excellent advice. Don't be afraid to communicate with your partner! Tell him what you do and don't like, and listen to what he does/doesn't like. I'm sure you two can find some middle ground.

Yep - communication is key here, sometimes in sex we have to make compromises, its all about give and take. If he likes having you on top then i would ask him to return the favour and request he does things for you which you enjoy. Remember, you shouldn't have to do anything you're not comfortable with so speak up if this is the case and i hope the two of you manage to find a good balance. All the best.

[Lightrail11]

Communication and experimentation are key ingrediants here. When my wife is in top she opens her legs so that I can stimulate her clitoris with my fingers, which she seems to enjoy.

[Big Mama]

Communicate, communicate, communicate. I do not like the top it does absolutely nothing. If my H wants me to be on top to enhance his pleasure I will only because I want to make him happy. Later he can make me happy if he didn't already.