[roadracer]

This is going to sound really strange, so please keep a open mind, as this is humiliating to even post!

I went on a trip about a month ago, and while driving, I used a incontinence product (part need, but mostly sexual in nature to me). I had the intention of throwing this out, but forgot about it.

Fast forward to today, and my dad decided to get into my car trunk to get something out that I had with me on the trip. So my dad found that in my trunk.

My dad is VERY closed minded, and was outside yelling at me, loud enough for the whole neighborhood to hear, about this extremely private thing.

I played dumb, like I didnt know what he was talking about, and have since hid out in my bedroom. I dont know how to react to this, but if I dont, my dad will tell everyone he knows about this, and it is going to ruin our relationship. My mom refuses to talk to me now.

Assuming you're an adult what business is it of theres to be telling you what you should or shouldn't be doing at your age? Impotence is a problem for many people and is nothing to be ashamed of. Even if that wasn't the entire reason you were using this tool why at your age should you not be able to have an enjoyable sex life? I would sit down with your father and explain that as an adult you have needs and that this is just a tool to help you satisfy these needs - he has absolutely no right to talk to others about your private business. To be perfectly honest if your parents were so ashamed etc why would they go around telling anyone? If however this is still their intention i don't think they are worth the time worrying about anyway - you have your own problems and own life to get on with, if they can't accept you for who you are i wouldn't pay their thoughts/behaviour any notice.

[roadracer]

Originally Posted by bb2023

Assuming you're an adult what business is it of theres to be telling you what you should or shouldn't be doing at your age? Impotence is a problem for many people and is nothing to be ashamed of. Even if that wasn't the entire reason you were using this tool why at your age should you not be able to have an enjoyable sex life? I would sit down with your father and explain that as an adult you have needs and that this is just a tool to help you satisfy these needs - he has absolutely no right to talk to others about your private business. To be perfectly honest if your parents were so ashamed etc why would they go around telling anyone? If however this is still their intention i don't think they are worth the time worrying about anyway - you have your own problems and own life to get on with, if they can't accept you for who you are i wouldn't pay their thoughts/behaviour any notice.

I am sure that they really just dont understand it, and I am fairly sure they dont understand it is something sexual in nature.

I think my dad might be thinking logically, that since I dont need this sort of stuff, that this has to be some sort of joke someone played on me by placing it in my trunk. I think he also might be a little hesitant to fully believe that. If he thinks it was some sort of joke, he will tell people, and even if he dosnt believe that, he is still going to talk to people about it because he would be to uncomfortable talking to me about something like this!