Sex toys survey

Now that I can have multiple orgasms again , I want to buy myself a present in the form of a toy, for my 42nd B-day next month. I think it is a good idea for a present. I somehow have managed to have had two husbands, three children, but no sex toys and reach 40 this way. The situation should be rectified!

I have seen them mentioned on this board so I think I am addressing the right audience, asking for a recommendation or two.

Just please assure me that having toys simply widens the repertoire without making us unable to come from human touch.

I like small bullets with changing heads. They are around $12. My sister use to be a consultant for passion parties so I'll ask her too.

My sisters suggestion:

BUNNY BLISS

I haven't had a single sexual feeling since 1997, so I can't help you.

But good luck, and kudos to you for gettin' that lovin' feelin' back. (Now I hear that old song, "You've Lost That Lovin' Feelin'" in my head.)

Thank you! And with you, that Wellbutrin which is supposedly good for the sex drive did not help with that either! Did not help with anything at all!

Sounds like a good gift to get yourself. You may want to browse the online catalogs and see what appeals. I don't use them anymore because my teen son goes through my drawers looking for money and meds often. Plus I have no door and no privacy. So I threw them out. I had one I loved many years ago, wore it out. It was a butterfly, with little straps to go around legs, and a remote. Hands free is nice.

I have no experience but have heard great things about the Lelo Lily, but it's a bit expensive!

You should definitly treat yourself. A toy won't interfere with what you experience with a partner, it may even enhance it. I really like the bullet styles.

I can't believe that I am going to reply to your post, but just so that we can end the subject,which makes me uncomfortable on so many levels, and so that you can get the most "bang" for your buck, I highly recommend that you order all of your sexual paraphernalia off of Amaz**.

They have millions of sexual intimacy toys, books, movies (some men find these exciting to watch while during foreplay), costumes, oils and general stimulants to suit any one's pleasure.

Depending on you level of kink or fetish, there are a variety of items available for any fantasy that you or your partner may want to explore, from your run off the mill didos **** beads (Please be sure that if you do buy any **** toys they are mede of silicon and not hard plastic, especially in the purchase of **** beads as these are often assembled by placing a knot between each hard bead, both of which are extremely painful when your partner removes the beads during orgasm), ben-wa balls, stone eggs, and varying sizes of **** plugs, and cock rings, all of which may be worn throughout the day to cause a sustained state of arousal are enjoyable not only in the pressure placed upon the sexual organ, but the building of the vaginal or **** walls to tighten muscles especially in the woman who may have given birth. Over time and with practice (as it is absolutely not recommend that you wear the stone eggs,or ben-wa balls out into public until you are certain that you have built up enough strength to maintain their weight within yourself) these stronger muscles will bring additional pleasure to your mate.

If your pleasure is steered more toward fantasy and role playing, there are paddle sticks, for schoolgirl or daddy's girl role playing, whips, mouth harnesses, crops and Pony-Girl **** inserts that come in a variety of colors texture and styles in which to keep them inserted during the demands placed upon your pony during this kind of sex play.

If these more mature fantasies are not what turns you on, they sell a number of items to take you back to the comfort of infancy for those who wish to be treated as a baby or sissy boy as the case may be, including stimulating bathing toys, adult diapers and rubber pants, bibs and binkies and feety-jamies that include the buttoned back flap for easy access to powdering, applying lotion or taking "baby's temperature rectally.

Other commonly found items include standard bed-post restraints, slings and swings (don't forget your safety-word) leather cuffs, body straps (hog-ties), hand cuffs, titty-clamps and a plethora of skin stimulants to arouse your partner while they are in the vulnerable position, such as fine bristled brushes ,feather wands, ball-bags and clit-sticks which are like small bobbie pins that pull back the hood that covers the clitoris, leaving it exposed and stimulated even if there is nothing more done than to let it remain uncovered in a room where the air is circulating, however, it is often preferred by many that a drop or two of warming or cooling lubricant applied to the tips of both the male and female sexual organs during this time of foreplay increase the bodies natural thrusting motion as the arousal increases.

Things to avoid are cheap, novelty gag gifts, and anything made with hard plastic or sharp edges. Besides standard vibrators, most items for male or female stimulation that require batteries are cheap and do not stay in place where the benefits of stimulation are most powerful, often leaving your partner frustrated, rather than aroused.

If as you say you are slightly overweight, a good investment is a pillow wedge that can be used in a variety or positions for maximum depth and comfort especially if either partner is older and has trouble retaining positions for extended periods of time.

Another reason to seek out a site in which to purchase your toys are that each item comes discretely packaged with a complete description of its size, uses and components along with often hundreds of reviews so that you can make an informed decision based on those that have already tried the item.

Hamster-Bamster, good luck to you and have a Happy Birthday. You will probably be able to pick up an entire toy chest full of surprises for you and your partner to enjoy.

NOW- Is there any way that we can end this discussion. I have certainly equipped you with more information than you were ever going to receive if this thread had cycled through many times over.

I prefer not to answer anymore questions regarding the toys and other items I have described to you for your oh so ready need to spread your wings and try something new.

Enjoy the drive, some claim it is better than the destination,

-Fleeing Bellocq

I don't see why the thread has to end. If someone is uncomfortable with it, they just shouldn't read it. I don't agree that a thread has to die cuz someone doesn't like it.

Landskaperdan,

You are 100% right. A thread does not have to end because I am uncomfortable with it. I am a big girl that has the freedom and responsibility to walk away from anything that causes me to be uncomfortable.

Did you see the length and detail I went to so that Hamster-bamster could have all (many) of the facts to make her choice in a safe and consumer friendly way? Out of the entire post there were just two small references to the fact that I hoped that after she was equipped with this information we could let it drop, because it does bring up some stuff for me that I would rather not remember.

"I can't believe that I am going to reply to your post, but just so that we can end the subject,which makes me uncomfortable on so many levels, and so that you can get the most "bang" for your buck, I highly recommend that you order all of your sexual paraphernalia"

However, because like I have always heard."That's life in the big city," I am wise enough to know that I have no right to control the world and what happens with in it. Hamster-Bamster is doing nothing wrong. On a conscious level I know that there is nothing wrong with sex and play, but inside some parts of my head, I will be glad when this thread gets snipped and swept off the kitchen floor.

Guess what? "There is nothing wrong with me feeling that way either. Go figure, Land...Hamster and I can come from two very different places to the same arena and work it out for ourselves, without fighting or blaming and with complete understanding that when two (or more) people GIVE THEIR CONSENT to enjoy the pleasures of each other, sex is a rockin' mess of fun!

I believe I even wished her a Happy Birthday...let's look, shall we?

"Hamster-Bamster, good luck to you and have a Happy Birthday. You will probably be able to pick up an entire toy chest full of surprises for you and your partner to enjoy."


Well looky there, I sure the heck did! Looks like I covered all of the bases here. Not only was I supportive, informative and looking out for a good persons safety, I was also, for one of the first times in my life, instead of making a sarcastic comment, making the choice to say exactly what I felt and hoped would happen when she had received enough input.

What a great world, Land, don't you think?,

I don't believe in burning books either,

-Fleeing Bellocq

Hey,

Vibrators are by far the most popular sex toy. There is a greater likelihood of orgasm, greater sexual desire, easier arousal, more self-lubrication (meaning less discomfort during intercourse), and equal or better sexual satisfaction. To enjoy orgasm, three-quarters of women need direct clitoral stimulation from fingers, a tongue, a vibrator, or anything else that lights an erotic fire. Vibrators are as natural as any other erotic enhancement: perfume, music, candle light, or lingerie. Using a vibrator-even frequently-does not change the bodies ability to respond to other types of sexual stimulation.

glad to see we can both be so adult about this :|

You know, this is really bothering me Fleeing. I consider Hamster a friend.. and for you to do this on one of her threads is wrong. I, personally, am excited for her that she has this opportunity to experience what she is, and if i had any input on it I would def. share it. but to ask her to end her thread, based on your emotions is wrong, and then lashing out at me when I say something about it.. really? She doesn't deserve this on her thread, so i will be ignoring you after I get this out.

Your emotions are definitely something to take into consideration... but this is not your thread. people here care about you, but don't think it's okay to superimpose your needs on others the way that you did.

I'm sorry hamster, that I am participating in an argument on your thread, and I hope that people keep posting advice for you! Congratulations Hamster.. I know this has been a goal of yours. Have fun with it!

Two words. Rampant Rabbit.

There are a lot to choose from and yes there are other types of toys and great brands out there but this is my preference. Check out Ann Summers, i feel they have a nice selection. Have fun exploring

Strongly agree with Dan, and going off topic for a minute too. Hamster contributes so much to the bp forum. I'm suprised thread was moved, but ok. Sorry that one is uncomfortable with the subject. But Hamster asks for a variety of responses, so just because one writes a page long response involving crazy fetishes, that is egotistical to think that oh now she has all the info. She never asked anything about fetish... she asked advice about some toys.

This kind of **** makes me feel sad that honesty talk among loyal pc members is censored in the bp forum and gets moved to this forum. It's a safe haven for me, I don't like that people will try to control what we talk about there. But maybe if there are kids around or something, then this topic should be in this forum, which same said kids could access just as easily. Wtf... I'm irked.

Sorry back to on topic. I had a bad experience with a bullet in the bootie, the lil cord broke lol. My ex had popped it in there without warning (what a jerk), I freaked and yelled get it out! So I'm not into those personally. I was... until 'that' happened. But honestly I don't think you're looking for bootie play Hammie.

My favorite thing is clitoral stimulation. We've talked about kegels before and I've got those muscles good and strong, which helps for fabulous strong orgasms, without anything needing to be inserted. Of course being with a man I love, the real thing, is the best.

You go girl, 50 in a row, nice job! I bet there was big glow above your house that night.

To those that have expressed their disgust in my response,

Hamster asked for ideas. I simply provided these to her.

I like Hamster, too, and agree that she offers much support and care to everyone here, including me. I find it surprising that you have decided for her how much information is the appropriate amount for her to be in possession of, and whether this information was desired by her, or not.

It seems to me, that you, like me, would rather the issue be resolved and moved past as your true feelings, have been clearly expressed, by your extreme squeamishness and offense by my detailed reply to Hamster.

This shows not Hamster's fear of experimentation, but your own. If she was not interested in ideas, as to what she may enjoy purchasing, in celebration of her birthday, and newly found sexual revolution, then I doubt she would have placed her post to begin with.

Someone here at PC wrote once, "If you don't want to start a fire, then don't go collecting kindling."

As to fetishes and kink...are you serious? Do these words imply perversion to you? Some will find Hamster's post a sickly perverted request, but we thinking and "rational" people know intellectually, regardless of the emotional reaction the subject may cause within us, that her desire for something new in her sexual life is no different than a desire to explore another country, or hobby. It is the curious nature of humans that drives some to climb mountains, explore underwater caves, dream of heading into space or, simply looking into a leather shop, the adult version of a candy shop.

My fear, when hearing of Hamster's birthday wish was the thought of an inexperienced woman entering what is very often a seedy establishment, (although I know that there are now trendy, "cute" little sex shops, which are filled with novelty toys, like a dollar store, that will not only fail to meet the needs Hamster has expressed, but will break within their first use.) and believe that the advice offered to her, by me, to shop from the safety and comfort of her own home to be wise and protective,- proof that it is Hamster's safety that I had in mind.

Again, there is nothing wrong with her desire. Most people have within them what they consider a "dark" thought, which is really just a fantasy. Some are comfortable acting upon and exploring these desires, some act upon their fantasies and then spend their days feeling guilt, and shame, for they have been taught that these thoughts are nasty, dirty, and bad, and the rest do not act upon them at all, believing themselves to be moral and pure, calling others out, that speak or act on such desires, as corrupt creatures in need of repent and rehabilitation.

This makes me think of some Catholic priests, Christian T.V. evangelists, politicians, and members of a 'community' in which the sharing of thoughts by minds, that are as diverse as the disorders and lives that they have lived.

There is nothing wrong with fetish, kink, fantasy-whatever you wish to call it, as long as those that are participating are all in consent of the "game."

Have you thought to consider that Hamster, having admitted that at her age, and never having experienced the sexual manipulation of an object other than that of another partner, may have been glad to have received the information of options, especially when so specific a list, as to lead her to an idea that she had not considered?

Me thinks thou doth protest too much... and perhaps are equally as uncomfortable with the thread as I, for emotional reasons, for you...I won't presume but maybe, the subject of sexual enjoyment is confusing and deep in your own subconscious a form of "deviance."

Feel free to block me, for it is the same as sticking you fingers in your ears and crying, "Na,Na,Na,....I can't hear you! I'm not listening." Which is how children and set-minded adults react when their own belief systems are challenged in a way that they know not how to express in an open debate and dialogue.

I could have done the same. I could have decided to ignore Hamster's sincere question, but understand and accept that I am simply 'one' in a world with many that have different interests and beliefs, whether these are religious, social, political, ecological, sexual or any number of other subjects that cause division among small-thinking men and women.

I have every right to feel and express some discomfort in a subject and at the same time, offer advice because of my understanding that my opinion is just that, mine, and does not make Hamsters desire immoral of invalid.

Tell me, if my niece were to come to me with questions regarding things that she desires to do sexually, and I am uncomfortable, do I tell her that is nasty and send her to ask her questions on the school yard, or do I set aside emotions and speak to her from a place of facts?

Hamster, if you feel that I have offended you by taking you at your word, believing you to be serious in you request for ideas, and then offering the most complete response that I was comfortable with sharing, including with it, reasons why I believed it to be a safer, and more enjoyable process to explore your options from a 'known' safe website, so that you would be able to take as much time as you needed to find the perfect gift in which to give to yourself, then please, I ask that you accept my apology, for I apparently misunderstood what you were seeking. Otherwise, I believe that I did you a service in sharing with you information that you may have not known to think or ask about, or may have been too embarrassed to request in such detail.

It is obvious that you have good friends, that care deeply for you, concerned for your well-being and feelings, and when it comes down to it, this is perhaps your greatest birthday gift, however I think that their intentions to protect you from the diseased, wretched girl that I am, are misplaced, in this case.

Sincerely,

-Fleeing Bellocq

I'll be honest I do like some bondage. But hard to have that while self-pleasuring unfortunately. The creative mind's imagination is probably the best sex toy there is. Most of my sex life is by myself, so luckily I do have an active imagination.

Fleeing- you did give a lot of detailed info. you are right, she should be careful entering a sex shop that could be seedy - an internet purchase would be my preferred and more private choice. i felt like you were trying to say, "ok I have given all the info, now no one else should speak on this topic". we can all speak on the topic and be supportive until mods close a thread, right? we're probably misunderstanding each other and sorry i was *****y about it.

Dear BlueInanna,

Misunderstandings are part of being human. My missteps happen often enough as to not judge another by what may be their own. I know that you and the other responder were reacting in defense of someone special to you and loyalty to good is always to be admired, even if I stood, misunderstood in the bow's sight. I feel no anger toward you. I am just glad that you were willing to allow me the opportunity to explain, rather than deciding my intentions, without asking for their accuracy, instead "closing the door in my face" before I had the opportunity to respond.

Thank you for coming back, so that we could talk.

As witness to you integrity, and with appreciation of your sense of 'fair-play,'

-Fleeing Bellocq

Thank you for all of the responses! I would not go to a seedy shop: I have purchased sex furniture in the past (a cube and a wedge: waiting for a partner now), made by Liberator, from Libida.com, a reputable women-only site with reviews and other consumer information. I have just never bought toys, and I wanted advice from friends more than I wanted to read the reviews on Libida.com. Or, let us say, in addition to.

I think this is the kind of thread that naturally dies out with time but I would not want to ever call it a day because all responses are welcome.

I am glad I have found it now that it has been moved!

No, I do not want bootie play but clitoral stimulation. Straightforward clitoral stimulation. Hands-free sounds very interesting. And it is reassuring to hear that vibrators will not alter my response to human touch.

I will let you know how it goes!

Hey Hamster, OMG. What am I doing and reading in my spare time. Who cares. It's my time and my life. Not in character for me but life is so boring if we stay in character.

TOYS!!!! YEAH!!!! LOVE THEM!!!!!
i have a man but sometimes a girl needs a "friend". My H is capable and willing but some solo time is nice to. He shares with me and loves it. I have sex w/ him and all works well, I have used my toys and all works well. So the sky is the limit baby. Have fun. 40 is never to old for fun. I'm 38 so go for it.

Wellbutrin did nothing for me except make it so I could not sleep for days on end. NOT GOOD.