what is going on with me; any insight welcomed

Anyone have any ideas as to why, at 31, I would suddenly lose the desire to have sex with someone? I mean, I still get turned on and stuff, I still can take care of myself, but the thought of anyone else other than me (male or female) touching me, etc, makes me ill. What is so weird is that I used to love sex. I have 2 kids, (am divorced now.)

Some factors to consider:
There is a tad bit of history of some sexual ...well I don't think it would be called full-out abuse,... I guess...anyway, but that happened long ago and not recently.

I am not on any medications and the only thing that is strange physically is that I suffered my 3rd concussion this past January.

I have been through some verbally/emotionally abusive relationships as well.

Is this normal hormone stuff? I am confused because I really don't want to be alone for the rest of my life (a bit dramatic, I know) but at the same time, I know what is expected in relationships nowadays and I know right now I will not be able to provide that.

Any input would be appreciated. Thanks

Oh and the best part is that when I tried to risk opening up to the person I thought I could trust in RL, he asked if I "was sure I was into guys"and wth was wrong with me. That will teach me to open my big mouth.like I didn't feel broken already.

Hi there. I hope I can be of some help.

Do allow me to start by saying I'm sorry this is happening to you, and I'm sorry your friend was so cold.

I'd rule out anything like menopause at this point in your life...you've on average another 19 years before that's a factor. Unfortunately, I don't know enough about the female body and hormones to comment outside of that. I hope another member can help you there.

Can you recall when this started? Was there anything you can possibly think of at that time that might've caused this?

I'm sorry I can't be of more help. I wish you all the best, and I hope you'll soon be able to return to a happy sex life.

My best,
Harley

Harley, thank you for your reply. The only thing i can think of that would have affected me strangely is the fact that I got my third concussion in January...but I think that I was starting to feel this way last year, before that. (I have heard that concussions can mess with hormones? IDK if this is true or not...but if it is, then maybe that added to me already feeling this way?) Who knows? Maybe its a body image thing. Meh. I will have to get back on the horse sometime! (heh heh, puns...)

Hi wolfin , i am also31 and just come out of an emotional and physically abusive relationship and and completely gone off sex too maye its our bodies way of taking care of itself for a while. I have full confidence that my sex drive. Will return eventually

Wolfin, since you are also on the ED forums, let me ask you how you are doing now in terms of eating, because a flare-up of an ED can be a culprit.

I never thought of that, hamster...! I am struggling. I am definitely not restricting to the point of starving or anything, but I definitely am watching anything and everything I eat like a hawk. I have become very rigid as far as what I eat and the "rules" are slowly coming back in my life too. I am def. still at a healthy weight for my height and have not been losing consistently either (grr)...but I could see where this could perhaps affect me? (eg, if I don't want to look at me, who would want to look at me? maybe?) hmmm something to think about...

There are similarities between sex and food. Besides the obvious - both are basic needs - both despise rules and rigidity. Plus, what you say about wanting to look at you. Plus, being comfortable in your own body - you need it for sex.

I appreciate you talking to me about this, Hamster. Thank you for your insight.

Hmm...I don't know about the concussion being a factor, as I don't know how that would affect hormone levels, but I do believe Hamster gave some excellent advice that I hope you can follow.

I'll ask my mom about the concussion...she was a few credit hours away from being a certified nurse, and she's still incredibly knowledgeable in regards to medicine, at least on a fairly basic standpoint. She may be able to offer something.