Home Menu

Menu


Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old Feb 17, 2013, 11:51 PM
lexie2010's Avatar
lexie2010 lexie2010 is offline
Junior Member
 
Member Since: Feb 2013
Posts: 6
I am a married woman of 20+ years and in my early 40s. I have an extremely hard time making friends. In the last year I have become close friends with a woman and am finding myself sexually attracted to her. I have never had this feeling for another woman before and am very confused about why I am feeling this way for her. It is only her I have this feeling for no other women.

advertisement
  #2  
Old Feb 18, 2013, 08:09 AM
adam_k's Avatar
adam_k adam_k is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: Jan 2013
Location: Indianapolis, IN
Posts: 1,275
Maybe you see something in her you desire? Maybe she has an inviting personality, and is attractive to you so you want a deeper releationship that you currently have with her. I don't think we can control what we desire. We can control our actions though. Maybe distance is what you need to let these feelinga cool off. I could imagine pursuing this releationship would harm your marriage.
__________________
"Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy."
Thanks for this!
lexie2010
  #3  
Old Feb 19, 2013, 03:28 PM
Sam2's Avatar
Sam2 Sam2 is offline
Veteran Member
 
Member Since: Oct 2012
Location: midwest
Posts: 656
Quote:
Originally Posted by lexie2010 View Post
I am a married woman of 20+ years and in my early 40s. I have an extremely hard time making friends. In the last year I have become close friends with a woman and am finding myself sexually attracted to her. I have never had this feeling for another woman before and am very confused about why I am feeling this way for her. It is only her I have this feeling for no other women.
If your marriage is a good one, its not worth throwing away what you have for what might be. Human relationships can be very complicated, and sometimes a strong attraction that feels like it might be a physical attraction, really isn't.
You have been married for a long time, and if this is the first time you have ever been attracted physically to another woman, I don't think I'd be inclined to trust it. There are people who have been married for a long time to the opposite gender and wind up "coming out", but usually they have had attractions to the same gender in the past and were covering the feelings up.

Do some soul searching and see if you can figure out what it is about this woman that attracts you. It may just be that she understands you and you have a lot in common. No one can make the decision of how to handle this for you, but if your marriage is good, don't throw it away for a one time attraction.

Sam2
Thanks for this!
lexie2010
Reply
Views: 973

attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:17 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2025, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.




 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.