[lexie2010]

I am a married woman of 20+ years and in my early 40s. I have an extremely hard time making friends. In the last year I have become close friends with a woman and am finding myself sexually attracted to her. I have never had this feeling for another woman before and am very confused about why I am feeling this way for her. It is only her I have this feeling for no other women.

[adam_k]

Maybe you see something in her you desire? Maybe she has an inviting personality, and is attractive to you so you want a deeper releationship that you currently have with her. I don't think we can control what we desire. We can control our actions though. Maybe distance is what you need to let these feelinga cool off. I could imagine pursuing this releationship would harm your marriage.

[Sam2]

Originally Posted by lexie2010

I am a married woman of 20+ years and in my early 40s. I have an extremely hard time making friends. In the last year I have become close friends with a woman and am finding myself sexually attracted to her. I have never had this feeling for another woman before and am very confused about why I am feeling this way for her. It is only her I have this feeling for no other women.

If your marriage is a good one, its not worth throwing away what you have for what might be. Human relationships can be very complicated, and sometimes a strong attraction that feels like it might be a physical attraction, really isn't.
You have been married for a long time, and if this is the first time you have ever been attracted physically to another woman, I don't think I'd be inclined to trust it. There are people who have been married for a long time to the opposite gender and wind up "coming out", but usually they have had attractions to the same gender in the past and were covering the feelings up.

Do some soul searching and see if you can figure out what it is about this woman that attracts you. It may just be that she understands you and you have a lot in common. No one can make the decision of how to handle this for you, but if your marriage is good, don't throw it away for a one time attraction.

Sam2