[pimmy55]

i'm a 60 yr old man pretty fit with a few health issues,last year i had a hernia op which has left scar tissue pressing on a blood vessel i now get erections which can last from 10 mins to 2hrs some guys will say i'm a lucky dog not me.i'm happly married but we no longer have a sex life just the way things go when your getting older,so i have had to return to the good old hand job which takes a long time with out a lot of end result.a friend told me about mastubation therapy on skype but knew no more so she put me on to this site where she thought i might get some input.it might not seem like a big problem but it has taken over my life so anyone got anything to say i would be very gratefull

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by pimmy55

i'm a 60 yr old man pretty fit with a few health issues,last year i had a hernia op which has left scar tissue pressing on a blood vessel i now get erections which can last from 10 mins to 2hrs some guys will say i'm a lucky dog not me.i'm happly married but we no longer have a sex life just the way things go when your getting older,so i have had to return to the good old hand job which takes a long time with out a lot of end result.a friend told me about mastubation therapy on skype but knew no more so she put me on to this site where she thought i might get some input.it might not seem like a big problem but it has taken over my life so anyone got anything to say i would be very gratefull

I am sorry! "Masturbation therapy over Skype" was my friend's lucky coinage. I have actually neglected to attend to that thread because of a lot of intervening priorities.

It referred to some fun with a real friend of mine, someone I have known for over 15 years. It did not refer to finding anonymous partners over Skype, although that DEFINITELY is done A LOT, too. Actually, due to my pervasive technological issues (retardation, basically), I could not figure out why hundreds of people with some very interesting and fascinating usernames (bigcock etc) skyped me, as I never expressed interest. Then after the problem got completely out of hand (no pun intended), I looked at the settings and it dawned on me that my setting was "Skype me" - in other words, I attracted attention. I do not know why people were attracted to me, because my Skype image is a very modest looking white goose (???), of all things, but they were just probably reaching out to random Skype users. After I figured it out, I changed my settings to the most restrictive ones and stopped having this problem.

But clearly setting to SkypeMe would get you so many anonymous seekers that the rest would be a scheduling challenge.

On a more serious note, have you talked to your wife about sex lately?

[Harley47]

Heh...well, do keep in mind, a swan turned on Leda, if you read Greek myths. Could always be worse.

Anyway, I do echo the sentiments about talking to your wife first. Going through with such a thing without her being 110% okay with it is a surefire way to create undue, additional stress in your marriage. Besides, it would likely be better for the two of you to try to help each other with the problem, given the intimate nature of it.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Harley47

Heh...well, do keep in mind, a swan turned on Leda, if you read Greek myths. Could always be worse.

Harley, I knew you would come up with the answer! Apparently, those hundreds of people who skyped me all read the Greek myths - all of them.

[Harley47]

Lol Well of course Hamster! What better place than Skype to find the world's gathering of Greek mythology enthuaiasts, no?

[pimmy55]

i'm am so in the wrong place greek mythology aside this is my last resort my wife was my first.wits end is place in my head .

[hamster-bamster]

The most upstream solution is to go back to the surgeon asking if the root cause can be dealt with.

[Perna]

Yes, you need to talk to your doctor, find a way to handle it medically since it has a medical cause.

[Harley47]

Agreed. Surely there's something that can be done for it? Your doctor would know more about the physicalities of it than we could, and could hopefully prescribe or otherwise do something to help alleviate or eliminate the issue.

What is your wife's take on this, if you don't mind my asking? Have you mentioned this proposition to her?

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

The most upstream solution is to go back to the surgeon asking if the root cause can be dealt with.

Actually, even before asking to address the root cause, you should report the problem to the surgeon, in a neutral factological manner. It seems that you have not even done that.