When to say yes?

I am really great you did not "give in", since right now (following the rejection you posted about) you would have been even more hurt than you already are had you "given in". So, you had the right intuition not to "give in" - you essentially protected yourself well.

More generally - people differ so widely when they respond to you on this thread because the main tool one uses to settle such issues and concerns is intuition, and intuition is notoriously hard to quantify, analyze, describe, mold into policy statements, etc.

But you had it - to the extent that you protected yourself so well, you had the right intuition and can congratulate yourself on having the right intuition.

So.......

As others have implied, the amount of time you should wait before sex is exactly the time you feel you should wait. Or in other words, do it whenever you want to (but not before).

I can only speak for me personally, but if a woman did not want sex within the first month, I would likely move on since I would take that as an indication she isn't really interested in me. However, that is only useful information if you are planning on dating me, which is highly unlikely. Everyone is different.

So if that is bad enough "as is", imagine how much worse if would have been had Court_Knee "given in" before being rejected?

Thanks for your input.