What would you say if your male partner wanted you to hold him while he opened his mouth onto one of your nipples and just suckled at you a bit? Say, for about 10 minutes or more?

[LiteraryLark]

I'd cradle him and talk to him like a baby and tell him "what a good boy" he is. It might feel strange, but I might like it. I've definitely thought about it.

Originally Posted by DrSkipper

I'd cradle him and talk to him like a baby and tell him "what a good boy" he is. It might feel strange, but I might like it. I've definitely thought about it.

I don't want too much babying, but I do want to be talked to in a gentle, condescending way, that would be ideal.

[hamster-bamster]

I think ten minutes would be seriously boring. I also do not like the holding part. I have never done the holding part. Men have so far managed to suckle on my nipples without my holding them, and in that way I have actually thought that it is a necessary part of sexual encounters and that everybody does it - no?

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

I think ten minutes would be seriously boring. I also do not like the holding part. I have never done the holding part. Men have so far managed to suckle on my nipples without my holding them, and in that way I have actually thought that it is a necessary part of sexual encounters and that everybody does it - no?

It would be passive suckling, not for sexual excitement, just for closeness.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

It would be passive suckling, not for sexual excitement, just for closeness.

Well if she has patience for that, then why not?

[LiteraryLark]

It is possible, Hammie, that there are women who enjoy cuddling more than the act of sex itself.

I think cuddling is very important, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't enjoy it.

[yellowted]

you may find it is very relaxing for you both, just remember only to suckle, not chew or nibble or bite!!!

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by DrSkipper

It is possible, Hammie, that there are women who enjoy cuddling more than the act of sex itself.

I think cuddling is very important, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't enjoy it.

I understand, but suckling can get annoying if done for a long time in the absence of milk.

Example: when babies are young and there is an abundance of milk, babies can nurse for however long and it is still pleasant to the mother. With older children, it eventually gets uncomfortable because there is little milk. When my youngest kid was 4.5 years old and I had been nursing for 6.5 years straight (counting from her older sister's birth), I weaned her for this reason only - I would have been fine with her nursing for longer, as she clearly preferred the taste of my milk to that of cow's milk and was very vociferous about it, but it started to feel uncomfortable and unpleasant because I was virtually out of milk at that point. Sure, nipples are erogenous and all the rest of that, but there probably is still a limit on how much suckling motion they can sustain.

[LiteraryLark]

But the man isn't sucking to get milk, it's out of comfort. I think a light pulling might be pleasant, but I've never been comfortable with any guy touching my breasts.

And what if the woman has never had children? She might not get tired, perhaps just bored.

[ickydog2006]

I hate it personally. It hurts me, but I feel pain from almost any contact with my nipple.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by ickydog2006

I hate it personally. It hurts me, but I feel pain from almost any contact with my nipple.

Are your nipples normal or invertted?

[Ladyzero]

Some women force artificial lactation with tablets, for adult nursing relationships.
Personally I love having my breasts sucked, and caressed, by a man, with or without sex.
I enjoyed breast feeding both my babies, briefly, that's a completely different feeling, not sexual.

[shezbut]

It depends upon how good he is at it.

I never enjoyed it before my current bf (other than when I nursed my 2 daughters, but that was a different kind of thing). Before him, it really bugged and bored me! My current bf has a way of making the experience rather exciting and erotic for me though.

Originally Posted by shezbut

It depends upon how good he is at it.

I never enjoyed it before my current bf (other than when I nursed my 2 daughters, but that was a different kind of thing). Before him, it really bugged and bored me! My current bf has a way of making the experience rather exciting and erotic for me though.

What does he do?

[shezbut]

Well...he focuses on the the tip of the nipple (very lightly at first, kind of a tease). Even though he's only working on one, both nipples become hard and he slowly sucks a little harder. One hand holds onto the breast that he's working on, and the other hand holds onto me tightly. Pulling me towards him ~ closer and closer. What began as a gentle, intimate kiss quickly becomes a passionate experience between us. My bf is very good at picking up on signals that my body sends him, without any thought from me.

He can feel my body relax in his arms; muscle spasms when I'm close to orgasm; he can change his rate of speed when he feels my body tense up & senses that I'm not quite ready to go that fast. My bf isn't Superman, but he gets his enjoyment of sex by making me enjoy the experience. He is a quad, and therefore cannot feel anything from his chest down. The experience is emotional for him & he can go at whatever rate of speed I'm comfortable with. That probably makes a big difference between him and "healthy" guys. Perhaps it is a technique that men can still work towards though. It sure is worth a shot!

Best wishes!

[ickydog2006]

My nipples look normal, but contact was never very comfortable, and then after breastfeeding for a short time it got way worse.

We tried some different stuff on V-day, including suckling, we had a discussion and she mentioned some weird stuff she was into and all of a sudden my thing didn't seem too bad, so i brought it up as a possibility and she agreed and i was able to suckle with confidence.

[adam_k]

It's always interesting to see what you partner is into, when you break down the wall of slightly being ashamed of it. It is interesting to try new things, unless it gets awkward. I had a few moments where it was awkward to look at her the next day. I'll leave it at that.

[Big Mama]

Shez are u holding out on us. You are a romance novel writer in your spare time right. If you are not you should consider it.

That is great that your guy knows what you like. I guess that is a perk I had not considered when it comes to quads. How wonderful to have someone in your life that takes your feeling into consideration.

I do not like my breasts touched. I dated a guy who raped me many times over. He would have me stand in front of him as he did what ever he pleased w/ me. I have no need to be touched there after that. My H may because it obviously does something for him to touch me there but It does zero for me personally. I did nurse all three of my children and it was wonderful. They made great baby feeders, not man toys though.

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

My H may because it obviously does something for him to touch me there but It does zero for me personally. I did nurse all three of my children and it was wonderful. They made great baby feeders, not man toys though.

((Big Mama))

I nursed my 2 children as well, which was a terrific experience for me too. Up until my current bf, the nursing was the only positive experience I'd ever had with my breasts as well.

I don't know if the other guys (ex bf's and ex-hub) didn't know what they were doing or if I just didn't allow myself to enjoy any sexual sensation, due to my past SA. It's really tough to say!

p.s. Thank you for the compliment on my writing. Romance novelist! LOL

[pogar246]

I would do whatever he wanted. As long as he is willing to please me sexually.

We call it nuzzling now. She says 'suckling' is a misnomer because I don't really open my mouth onto her much.

[Maven]

I like the idea of breast suckling/nuzzling, but my nipples are very sensitive and I don't know why, but I feel a little nauseous when my nipples are touched, even by me. I've learned to be able to touch them gently without too much revulsion (that word sounds worse than what I'm feeling, but it seems to fit at the same time), but just for a few seconds.

We broke up recently. I may have introduced the suckling into the relationship too soon.