Fantasies in the 3rd person.

When you think of having sex with someone, do you view yourself like you're watching a movie.

Sometimes I do Lycanthrope. It is like I am watching me be me, not really being me if that makes since.

Sometimes, I am able to hold a first person and a third person perspective simultaneously in my mind, and like it this way.

Other times, just in the first person.

Always first person.

it feels like i'm the one who's getting hurt and the people are just exploiting me.

It's third person sometimes.

Most of the time it's not me, it's my fantasy self with my fantasy partner.

Me to Illegal toilet. I look much better in my fantasy.

When I fantasize, it's always in third person and it's almost never me as myself as then it gets too real and gives me a lot of anxiety. I feel much better if I am playing a character with a different name than my real one.

Like your younger self, or, completely different? I have read about people who fantasize about being different, but cannot get how it might be possible. It is almost as if there were a different persona that is being played out via fantasy.

I do though picture myself looking the way I used to look if I go back in time (to real life situations from the past). I think it kind of makes sense.

hamster, in my mind it is that pretty me, the skinny me, before three 9 lb babies.

Oh my, I hear you!

Only one of mine - the third/last one - weighed 9 lbs though. The others arrived at 6-7 lbs.

But still! Hear you, hear you!

PS I cannot see how people say that they assume another persona in their fantasy life. Going back in time still means staying within own identity - as opposed to assuming another persona. I am curious how people choose the persona (if they choose). Or does it just happen? An interesting thread, for sure.

Well, I pretend I'm Doctor Who in my fantasies. All of them.

I use characters that I make up (and possibly are from my writing) that would be similar to me (would be the version of me that would exist in the particular fantasy's universe), but be better than me in certain ways. In both looks and personality. I like fantasizing in a universe where I'm a capable of seducing someone. Or frankly, in a universe where I'm psychologically able to have sex. I mean, these are going to be my only sexual experiences, so I might as well try to make them good if I can.

As for me personally, in my fantasies I become a completely different person. Sometimes it may be one of my own created characters (many of us writers are prone to getting emotionally attached to them, after all) and sometimes it will simply be myself but as I see myself from inside. Which is the opposite gender of the one I was born so in a way, quite different (yet not exactly leaving my own identity).

I have always fantasized as though I was watching myself. Though, to be honest, I have always thought in third person. Even when I day dream, I see myself in third person. When I write, I see every single character in third person. When I plot out a scene in a book, every character is in third person (I don't assume the persona of any of them). Seems natural that my fantasies would be in a similar manner.