[Littlemeinside]

I am not gay but I´ve been extremely attracted to a person, at work. We would have extreme eye contact and she stared at me alot. I quit because she was my boss of some kind. When we said our goodbyes, we hugged really tight for about five minuts. Carressing each others backs, none of us wanting to let go.
Then just had a normal/formal conversation afterwards, wishing eather other good luck.

I am deeply attacted/ in love with her. She is much older and I don´t know if thats what´s wrong, now that I quit the job.

My question is if I should have asked her, if she wanted to see me again? In a private setting.Also I wonder why she didn´t ask. She´s the one who started with the flirting and held me really close when hugging?

I am pretty sure she is gay and thinks I am too...Hmm I am a bit clueless.

Is it normal for people to interact that way, only to say goodbye? Sigh

Hi Littleme, I think it can be difficult to know that someone finds you sexually attractive unless they touch you in areas normally c0vered by a swimsuit. Hugs usually seem asexual to me.

I think if you are really interested in the lady who was your former sort-of boss, you should ask her how she feels about you. Perhaps you could send her a brief note and ask her to go out for coffee or some such activity.

It's very difficult to guess what another person is thinking.

[Littlemeinside]

Thanks for replying- Thing is I am almost sure she is attracted to me. Lingering long looks, extremely intense for the past couple of months. And now the hug. I don´t thing anyone has hugged me like that before. We might as well have been laying in a bed, LOL.

It´s all really confusing to me. I am not fond of contacting her, because I am sure she must have giving it some thought, and decided not to take it any further? SIGH again ...

Wonder if this is normal "gay flirting" ) sorry in lack of a better word) without any real intentions

Wonder what would have been natural. The boss who´s older or me as the younger employee to ask, the other person out? Sorry. I am spinning here

[sugahorse1]

Ask her out for coffee.
I am not gay (have only recently identified myself as bi) and I had a similar experience at work. It was with a work colleague. I rated to then go to her place for drinks after work with a bunch of friends, then started sitting next to her, then felt an immense attraction, and eventually we started to sit close enough that our bodies touched and after a while we both just kind of knew. This was my first experience with another woman.

I met another lady in a social setting that we both go to. We started to hug goodbye, then a small kiss. Then the hugs got longer. We then started messaging and grew our relationship that way.

If you like/love her, don't let anything get in the way of trying. You have nothing to lose

[hamster-bamster]

I am straight, but in a man woman situation, no, you need no genital or breast ur buttock exposure to transfer a very strong erotic charge. Eye contact works well. I doubt that same sex relationships are that different and that specific. I suspect, though I do not know, that the general rules of attractions still apply.

Since she was your manager, she could have restrained herself on account of professionalism.

I would follow sugahorse's advice.

Good luck.

[hamster-bamster]

Alternatively or additionlly, since she is so much older, she could have been unsure of her own attractivess due to age. All the more reason to follow up.

Also, again in straight contexts, an ever so slight touching with no genital exposure at all can convey erotic attraction. And you hugged for five minutes.

[sugahorse1]

Yip, a 5 min hug is intense. There would well have been a very strong erotic attraction between the 2 of you.

I also suggest you chat to her quite soon so you know where you stand. You don't want to be formulating a scenario in your head, only to find out that the feeling is possibly not mutual, and you end up getting hurt. Again - talking from experience.

[Littlemeinside]

So I texted her a month ago...She wrote she would really like to see me again. Also that she was busy for some time, but would get in touch ....I got dumped right?? Sigh

[hamster-bamster]

not necessarily - she might have her misgivings, simply. It is not necessarily a reflection on YOU. It might be a reflection of her internal doubts. Do not take it too close to heart, OK?