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Old Nov 05, 2013, 11:26 AM
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Anyone else a swinger?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.

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Old Nov 05, 2013, 12:52 PM
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Nope, but our neighbors are. It works for them (sort of ... uh) and as long as nobody gets hurt, what people want to do is fine by me. I say sort of because they have certain rules and invariably one of them messes up and breaks a rule and then the fight is on.

Personally, intimacy means too much to me emotionally to ever even consider it. I guess I'm one of those few guys that actually doesn't have any desire for multiple partners.
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Old Nov 05, 2013, 09:46 PM
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It is an interesting and tempting looking lifestyle, but no, to risky, fear of contracting a disease is like an angry 800 pound gorilla to me, It's much better if I just don't put my self in a situation where that could happen, but I have two friends that are and it ended up costing both of them there marriage.
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Old Nov 06, 2013, 05:42 AM
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I have barely worked out how to have intercourse with a woman without hurting myself let alone ventured into the world of risque lovemaking. Pass.
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Old Nov 06, 2013, 12:21 PM
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It is an interesting and tempting looking lifestyle, but no, to risky, fear of contracting a disease is like an angry 800 pound gorilla to me, It's much better if I just don't put my self in a situation where that could happen, but I have two friends that are and it ended up costing both of them there marriage.
That's why the rules are really, really important. For swinging to work for a couple they have to be very sure they communicate what is okay for each of them and then be willing to make double sure they don't cross any boundaries that their partner set.

If all that works out, then it can work for some couples.
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Old Nov 13, 2013, 05:35 PM
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Yes, MoxieDoxie.
The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy is btw a fantastic page-turner on polyamory and also swinging.
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