almost 30 and still confused

hello, i am almost 30 female and am very confused.... i call my self bi... but in reality i don't know what i am... i've been in many relationships with men...but always found it weird... i decided to try dating a woman... who was just a user... but it felt much more right/comfortable to me even though we never had sex it felt more comfortable then being with any man i ever dated... but i've always had dream of falling in love with a man and getting married with a big family...... being with women snuggling and kissing feels more comfortable and natural to me... although have always been too afraid to go further.... when i look at men and women i tend to like women a little more but find both attractive... and having been with men i can say i honestly not a fan of penis's and never been able to put my mouth on one with out nearly puking... i know no one else can actually tell me what to do or how to figure it out... but i am always interested in hearing others opintions on what they think... from what i have said do you think i am BI or Lesbian or strait?

I would lean towards bi since you seem to have attraction to both men and women. But I also believe that sexuality and attraction is more of a spectrum thsn black and white with only 3 options.

All I can suggest is to do what feels right to you. If you are attracted to a certain male/female you may be attracted not necessarily to just their gender but also their personality or other traits.

I'd say you're bisexual, but you lean more towards female. Maybe 75% female, 25% male? Anyway, you said the only thing keeping you from going any further is fear. What are you afraid of? What's the worst thing that could happen? The worst thing that could happen is you'd decide you don't like it, and then you'd know more about yourself. Maybe if you went all the way with a female it would answer some of your questions.

These are just my thoughts and opinions, they are not suggestions.

I'm going through the exact same thing right now. After dating a man, it's very hard to admit to yourself that lean more on the lesbian side of the spectrum. I've been with both women and men sexually, and being honest, being with a woman felt that much better

Forget the labels if they're not helpful. Just do whatever feels right, ive always thought it depended more on the person than anything else.