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Old Nov 29, 2013, 04:38 PM
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Okay, so I posted before about my boyfriend and going through a rocky patch and how that has obviously bothered our sex life. Well things have gotten betterish, and the opportunity for sex has presented itself and he's shot me down every time.

I don't know if it's the weight I've put on or because I don't wear makeup like I used to, but he just seems disinterested as of late? What can I do to make this better?

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Old Nov 29, 2013, 06:02 PM
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Maybe he's just sulking?
Men don't care about weight and makeup as much as women think.
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Old Nov 30, 2013, 05:05 AM
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Men turn down sex more than women do, and for all sorts of reasons. It sounds to me like maybe you haven't resolved your current series of arguments.

How far have you been able to get with him?
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Old Nov 30, 2013, 10:38 AM
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Men turn down sex more than women do, and for all sorts of reasons. It sounds to me like maybe you haven't resolved your current series of arguments.

How far have you been able to get with him?
Well it was just like cuddling and kisses for the past few days. Last night we had sort of a break where I had to be there for him (rather than he being there for me), and instead of just telling him that I wanted sex, I initiated sex... and we finally made love! It was long overdue, we both are in better spirits lol.

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Old Nov 30, 2013, 09:39 PM
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Last night we had sort of a break where I had to be there for him (rather than he being there for me)
What do you mean by this?

Is he mostly 'there for you' rather than the other way around?
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Old Nov 30, 2013, 10:10 PM
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I have a hard time being there for him when my feelings overwhelm me. They were yesterday and I basically tabled my emotions to focus on his. Hard to do with BPD.

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Old Nov 30, 2013, 10:20 PM
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Okay, so I posted before about my boyfriend and going through a rocky patch and how that has obviously bothered our sex life. Well things have gotten betterish, and the opportunity for sex has presented itself and he's shot me down every time.

I don't know if it's the weight I've put on or because I don't wear makeup like I used to, but he just seems disinterested as of late? What can I do to make this better?

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Hey Angel- sorry to hear. If you're not already doing it, spice things up a bit! I love girls all dolled up in makeup, sexy lingerie and heals or in tight leather! Hope that helps a bit, and best of luck!!
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Old Nov 30, 2013, 11:06 PM
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Hey Angel- sorry to hear. If you're not already doing it, spice things up a bit! I love girls all dolled up in makeup, sexy lingerie and heals or in tight leather! Hope that helps a bit, and best of luck!!
I appreciate you thinking outside the box, but my boyfriend is not into that really. He prefers me casual and not all made up. It's gotten better though. I started just realizing that we had to really work out our issues and in order to so that, I had to try and put his needs first rather than trying to have him meet mine. It worked too, we ended up patching things up last night and I finally got that closeness I was craving! lol.

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